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Mental Health 16w
Any advice for accepting that my boyfriend really does love me? He is so wonderful but it feels like reassurance where if he isn’t actively telling me then I feel like he must not love me anymore. It feels too good to be true. Why would he pick me?
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Anonymous 16w

i feel this way too! a lot of it has to do with loving yourself. the more you love yourself, the more you’ll believe you’re worthy of love. it can be tricky, and it sucks when our brain tells us that our partner doesn’t love us. but i promise he does! he wouldn’t be with you if he didn’t. unless he is actively showing you that he doesn’t love you, then you should believe he does, even when he’s not showing it. and there’s no shame in asking for reassurance here and there!

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Anonymous 16w

I had this problem with my gf and she left me. So uh theres some motivation

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Anonymous 16w

truly, you just have to get yourself to snap out of it before you do some silly stuff or self sabotage the relationship. i’ve ruined many a good thing by just over analyzing and convincing myself there’s no reason they should like me. or you’ll manage to push them away unfortunately

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Anonymous 16w

I love him so much. I want to believe him. I believe him when he shows me through the little ways he loves me. How do I still believe it when he’s not showing me? It’s not possible for him to always show me. He shouldn’t have to and he doesn’t have to.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 16w

this!!! yes girl, stated perfectly!! he does love you! he is with you and wants you. you just may need to love yourself more and know fully your worth and love who you are. because you are valuable. so believe it!! sometimes i think we have a hard time believing and accepting that love is real when we don’t fully love ourselves❤️❤️ :)

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 16w

Thank you both :) that really helps. Do you have any advice on the whole “love yourself” thing T.T I don’t really know how I can change that. That’s always felt like a really vague concept to me. There are things I do love about myself but other things I don’t and that’s good because I can keep trying to be better. Loving myself any more than that would feel arrogant?

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