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If you have someone you’ve been friends with a very long time who you don’t want to be friends with anymore, tell them why. Don’t slowly and one-sidedly grow apart from them until you decide to ghost them without explanation. This hurts so fucking much
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Anonymous 1d

The ghosting happened over 6 months ago and it feels like a fucking scar. I don’t know what I did wrong. All I know is that something was wrong. Maybe everything was wrong. I don’t know. I can’t stop fucking thinking about it and getting so angry and so fucking devastated over it. Don’t do this to people. Please don’t do this to people.

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Anonymous 1d

honestly. had a friend of 7 years and a friend of 10 years do this to me and it did not feel great

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

May I ask if you’re a man or a woman?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

Trans man

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

This is very interesting bc I’m a functionally straight woman and have been experimenting with telling men straight up why I’m no longer interested in them, even at the risk of hurting their feelings, and the reactions has been overwhelmingly more positive than anything I got when I was protecting their egos

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

It would have hurt to know why they wanted to end the friendship, but I would have respected their wish to end it and I wouldn’t be obsessing over it this long after if I just knew why

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

Ghost you or cleanly end the friendship?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

def not a clean end. they didn’t fully ghost, but they were clearly trying to distance themselves without ever actually talking to me (they were also roommates which was fantastic)

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

Jesus, sorry you dealt with that. I don’t know how you can be friends with someone for so long and not have the basic level of respect to just talk to them, especially for something as serious as not wanting to be friends anymore when it’s not mutual

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

it’s been a lil while but i’m still a lil salty abt it lmao. i’m sorry you’re dealing with the current friend issues, best of luck (and it does get better over time, my mental state now compared to when it happened are night and day)

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

They’re not as current as I’d like for how much it still hurts sometimes (happened 7 months ago🫩), but thank you, I’ll take your word for it :)

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