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Mental Health 5w
why do i feel so guilty after setting a boundary? i don’t want to make people upset and i feel like i don’t have the right to communicate what makes me uncomfortable.
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Anonymous 5w

I get this feeling too, for some reason people think my boundaries are less important bc I have a hard time communicating them

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Anonymous 5w

I can relate with this, it can be so hard to set a boundary and that feeling of disappointing someone after you set a boundary is so real and valid. The best thing someone told me is that when someone is mad that you set a boundary, it means that there was a good reason why you set the boundary in the first place.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5w

But I DO communicate them

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5w

exactly. and i’ve been a people pleaser for so long and i’m trying to take care of myself more, and that includes setting boundaries, but then i feel so guilty when people get upset. it’s like they never think that i’ll actually say “no this isn’t okay with me and it makes me uncomfortable”. and then they get mad but at the same time i know i’m doing what’s right for me

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