Mental Health on Yik Yak | My virginity as a man at 21 is a huge insecurity of mine that I can’t shake off. I feel defective and like I am undesirable. Even if I lost it I would still be pinned as “late bloomer” and I would never be someone’s first choice

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My virginity as a man at 21 is a huge insecurity of mine that I can’t shake off. I feel defective and like I am undesirable. Even if I lost it I would still be pinned as “late bloomer” and I would never be someone’s first choice

Anonymous 3w

Lost mine at 22. You'll get there bud

Anonymous 3w

brother you aren’t alone in that, that could be a very isolating feeling trust I know , but you will be good bro you’ll meet the perfect girl or boy that will change your mind about that , just work on yourself brother trust me , you’re worth more than just your body count.

Anonymous 3w

Literally no one is going to think you’re a late bloomer. Girls think much differently than guys especially regarding sex. Thats a very weird and also self fulfilling put-down you have. Plus, having an idea of sex like that is only going to lead to worse thinking patterns. Sex isn’t that important in the grand scheme of life.

Anonymous 3w

This isn’t what being a “late bloomer” was originally intended to be defined by. You’re fine bro 👍 Body count really doesn’t matter. It’s you’re heart and character that does

Anonymous

#1 3w

I doubt that, even if I do find someone it likely won’t last super long as most relationships go. I wish I had bodies from this point so it wouldn’t matter as much as I would already have sexual validation

Anonymous

OP 3w

I understand bro , but maybe that’s the issue you’re too stuck in you’re head about it, Even if the right girl came along that don’t mean it gotta last forever either way bro it’s okay , there’s people who are 30 and don’t got they first kiss , the more you chase something the faster it runs away , I have a feeling you’ll be good be easy on yourself ignore all those jokes u hear on YouTube videos or movies bout all that sex shit. 7billion ppl in this world bro your virginity does not define u

Anonymous

OP 3w

If it makes u feel any better there’s millions of religious dudes who are just like u so u def ain’t the only regular 21 virgin

Anonymous

#1 3w

as a woman, i don’t find you being a virgin a problem at all! it also shouldn’t be to the right person for you as well. don’t let it define who you are. there’s no time limit or deadline so take your time

Anonymous

#4 3w

Heart and character doesnt matter when you’re behind on something most of your male friends have done and talking about . People use virgin to insult people they dislike even if they clearly aren’t a virgin

Anonymous

#5 3w

I know there isn’t a time limit but I feel I’m going into territory where it is weird and it will be a turn off for most woman who expect a lot from a man as they get older. I’ll be viewed like a kid if I’m 25 and still a virgin

Anonymous

OP 3w

I mean I’m a dude and I don’t really need to talk about that stuff to feel good about myself. Sure it’s nice to do but sex isn’t the pinnacle of life bro. Just a small part of it. No need to pressure yourself. Tbh I’ve met a woman who was a virgin at 30. You’re 21 so just give yourself some grace man

Anonymous

OP 3w

Also good women value character over body count any day. If you’re on this platform you may think otherwise but that’s because it’s either dudes posing as women or women that aren’t good quality anyway