There’s also the secret third option, being a good person who cares about others, but developing boundaries so you don’t over exert yourself in such social situations

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If you feel like it’s not being reciprocated, it means you’re not doing enough for yourself. Used to feel this way, then I became less available and focused more on bettering myself/life and I’m still able to be very generous but I’m putting myself first always. I’m not gonna push my stuff to the side for anyone. Gotta be my best friend or lover tbh

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I literally just made a post, wondering if anyone else was feeling like this. You're not alone my friend. We are good people who have a lot of empathy for others. We just need to learn how to have enough empathy for ourselves.

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Yess heavy on prioritizing myself and my own needs. Do not be so available for people and please learn to say no. If people don’t like it, then that’s something that they’ll have to come to terms with. I’ve been doing that lately and it feels good!

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