
I think part of him definitely represented that sure but it was def meant to be more broad. I saw it more as a reflection of how patriarchy tries to force women into submissive roles for men. I think it wanted a lot of toxic men to think back on their âcrazy exâ and actually consider how much they fed into her âcraziness.â Ultimately, the final message is clear⊠Niki was a victim of the three peopleâs obsession over HER. All of them obsessed over her for a different reason.
like genuinely it filled me with rage because even after bear got what HEEEEEEE FUCKING WANTED, he couldn't FUCKING handle her and WAS EMOTIONALLY CHEATING ON HER. just cause nikki got there in time and prevented him from actually cheating. and then the FUCKING SCENE, where real nikki wakes up and is BEGGING to get killed, not begging for help, BEGGING TO DIEEEEE AND HE HAS THE AUDACITY TO ACT LIKE THE FUCKING VICTIM LIKE SHUT YOUR FACE YOU DUMB MF I HATE HIM I HATE HIM
has nothing to do with rape culture imo. itâs literally just a hopeless romantic who sought the perfect woman but is blind to the baggage that she was carrying and when he got that perfect girl he realized you canât change a person to be who you want because youâll eventually end up destroying the image you had created of them.
at that point in the movie he doesnât know itâs not her. itâs only till after the dinner date that he realizes something is off and stops having sex with her. technically its rape but iâm trying to put this in the perspective of bear as he didnât fully comprehend what he had done with the willow until then.
yeah you just stated the obvious, i said that baggage shit because it was a large plot reveal at the end of the movie that removed nikki from the pedestal bear had put her on top of. bear is an oblivious and naive guy who doesnât have social queues to understand the people and their emotions around him. His view of nikki before the wish is someone who has no wrongs and beautiful. but no one is perfect and nikki isnât in the wrong for hooking up with the other coworker but it ruins his pedestal.