Anonymous #3 3w

like if an autistic person with a very low grasp of social cues/empathy says or does something offensive and genuinely cannot understand why it’s wrong because of their high support needs. i think also the distinction between “excuse” and “reason” is more blurred than a lot of people want to admit

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Anonymous OP 3w

imo being nd can be a reason/excuse but it also doesn’t protect you from the consequences of your actions. for example if you’re autistic you might say something offensive and not realize it but you aren’t entitled to a relationship with the person you offended because you’re nd. maybe people give you more leeway but if you keep being an asshole then it’s not on your neurodivergence at that point

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Anonymous #4 3w

in that scenario are we assuming that the NT person went through the steps of explaining what the transgression was? because this has happened to me where they refused to tell me what i said was offensive because it was something that should be obvious. so in their mind i "keep being an asshole" like u put it but i just never got the feature identified that i needed to correct in the first place so how was i supposed to know the proper behavioral adjustment

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Anonymous #5 3w

oops meant to also put "should be obvious" in quotations

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