Anonymous OP 5d

* with how quiet I am. Uggh I can’t even type

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Anonymous #3 5d

We aren’t doing any vows though, we’re just trying to keep it fairly simple

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Anonymous #2 5d

I don’t even feel that much pressure with the actual ceremony, I’m more stressed about having to talk to ppl I don’t know & the insane amount of pictures that will be taken

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Anonymous OP 5d

if you have a photographer it's easy to tell people to leave the picture taking to the professional and specific designated times for family/friends to take their own, otherwise they'll be messing up the photographer's work.

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Anonymous OP 5d

Ah I get you. Only other kind-of thing I have is like - find a different dress for the reception at least. Not a wedding dress, just any formal enough dress, even one you have already. I had never seen people stay in the actual wedding gown until I was an adult, everyone in my family didn’t want to like, spill smth on theirs or just whatever might happen to it after the ceremony during the party. You get the posed photos over with and then chill

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Anonymous #2 5d

Also, the reception is for you to celebrate! There’s pressure to talk to a ton of people but, I think if you disappeared for like 15 minutes every hour to go somewhere quiet, you’d still be present and it’s not a prolonged absence. The only people you really need to talk to are his immediate family. Yeah it’d be nice to branch out to more, but it’s not like an insult if you just don’t make it around. Maybe go around the tables, introduce yourself/chat for a sec, move on to the next, break after

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Anonymous OP 5d

do you have a planner? they might be able to come up with some strategies for the social aspect, I'm sure an experienced planner has had other clients with the same concerns

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Anonymous #4 4d

I wanted a dress with a collar, but best I could find was a high neckline. And I wanted to be fully covered all the way up to my collarbone, but everything just above the boobs is lace. And I wanted long sleeves, but I had to add sleeves. And I really hate the emphasis of boobs on wedding dresses, but the most modest/ decent one I could find still had a shape that kinda emphasizes what little boobs I have 😭

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Anonymous OP 4d

^ (cont.) and like I said everything above the boobs is lace, so I have to wear those stick on things bc I was afraid any bra would show. I mean it is super modest/ decent/ very covering for a modern wedding dress at least but I wish it weren’t quite as feminine as it is. Even though my boobs aren’t going to be hanging out of it in the least I still feel kinda exposed with the curved shape around the breasts. & yeah I did consider women’s wedding pantsuits but all of those had PLUNGING necklines

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Anonymous OP 4d

& I was kinda in a rush since i kinda had to wait for the holidays to be over since it was like one thing after another between November and January and I was having to find something in person since I didn’t want to risk something online not fitting/ being too tight and then the place I got it from I had to wait like 3 weeks for alterations & then they took it up too damn much so then I made them redo it. & ORIGINALLY I was going to just buy a dress secondhand vintage but those were all yellow

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Anonymous #1 4d

Bruh we can’t afford no planner

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Anonymous OP 4d

So basically this is what I wanted for the top half

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Anonymous OP 4d

And this is the one I settled for (but like I said I added long sleeves)

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Anonymous OP 4d

At least for the reception since it’s still a cold month you could find a white silk scarf or even like a lace table runner and wear it like a wrap around your collar/shoulders. Or like a loose headscarf that covers your chest

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