Anonymous #1 13w

Doesn't make sense because there is another lady here who uses thr same device and the thought has NEVER occurred.

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Anonymous OP 13w

its more like externalized ableism

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Anonymous #2 13w

I've never looked at some in one of those chairs and thought they don't need it. I def don't think being nondisabled is the norm. Both my grandmothers used something similar at one time and they def needed it. And I've worked an alarming amount of kids who used mobility devices (due to my job) and I'm telling you the thought was rouge

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Anonymous #2 13w

She did get up and start walking around (aissting with a different device) and she looked very stiff and her back had a slight hunch

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Anonymous OP 13w

just bc ur used to it doesn’t stop ableist thoughts lol. thoughts are just thoughts they don’t have to mean anything

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Anonymous #2 13w

I just think there might be something else I saw that I wasn't able to articulate that assisted the thought. If I just felt it was an ableist thought id accept that. It felt like more and if anyone else? Has ever picked up on something like this, i’d love to hear from you

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Anonymous #3 12w

I'm sorry you have intrusive thoughts but I'm glad you are able to recognize them for what they are I think I had an odd thought and I'm trying to understand that thought. It didn't feel intrusive. I challenged the thought and still I felt very confident, she doesn't need that wheelchair. Later I saw the other lady who uses a chair-walker and I tried to understand why its different w/her I came up with some theories. I appreciate everyone's opinions!!

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Anonymous OP 12w

Maybe she only needs the chair sometimes or it’s a new thing for her and since you’ve never seen her use it, it seems odd to you? Just a theory

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Anonymous OP 12w

we all have unconscious biases and that’s normal but it’s good ur challenging those negative beliefs u had and trying to understand why. u can say ur not biased but again that’s why it’s called unconscious bias. look up those tests that measure ur bias i forget the link

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Anonymous OP 12w

but idk do u want us to say its bc shes pretending or something and thats what ur pattern recognition is picking up on lmfao😭😭 cause it kinda feels like that’s what u want

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Anonymous #2 12w

No, bc the question I asked doesn't even challenge her in that way. My question wasn't about whether she is pretending. It simply ask does she really need to use that she did walk without the wheelchair. Using a wheelchair doesn't automatically mean your lower area is paralyzed. I've gone over it in my head a few times and I think I just picked up on that aspect

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Anonymous OP 12w

she probs has POTS

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Anonymous OP 12w

I'm confused though bc asking if she really needs to use that is essentially the same as saying that she's pretending some people have hidden disabilities and conditions that may leave them incapacitated despite the fact they're typically able to function normally but also someone medical info isn't really your business, I understand being curious but it's okay to go oh that's odd and move on

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Anonymous #3 12w

I know I didn’t think she was pretending. I didn’t say a single thing to her. It’s also okay to stop and examine my thoughts. I deal with a lot of metacognition. I think ppl just aren’t used to someone sharing a thought like this and automatically feel it’s wrong or it’s rooted in something negative.

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Anonymous OP 12w

it’s not that people aren’t used to someone sharing a thought like this it’s that ur asking us like we know why u thought that but then saying that’s not the answer u want😭😭 like ur trying to get us to figure it out for u but somehow they’re all wrong answers

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Anonymous OP 12w

thoughts are just thoughts lol not all of them need to be analyzed and examined. if we’re truly talking the most reasonable answer is probably unconscious bias

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Anonymous OP 12w

or maybe it was just mere curiosity but the way ur thought was worded it seems otherwise

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Anonymous #2 12w

Really? Can you link me to some of these where others asked this question?

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Anonymous OP 12w

and maybe u didn’t say she was pretending but u keeping gauging the fact u must’ve seen something else for u to have that thought unconsciously implies she’s probably pretending and that’s what was off but idk

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Anonymous OP 12w

what question

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Anonymous #4 12w

That might be it!

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Anonymous OP 12w

if that is it then it’s still an unconscious bias lmfao😭😭 u think that all disabilities are visible or don’t understand some people need to rely on wheelchairs sometimes but not all times

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Anonymous #2 12w

Hi #2 you’re right, it was unconscious bias and I think that all disabilities are visible and I don’t understand some ppl need to relay on wheelchairs sometimes but not all times

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Anonymous OP 12w

ok

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Anonymous OP 12w

glad i helped u realize

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Anonymous #2 12w

Me too. Thanks

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Anonymous OP 12w

no problem

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