…step outside it without them trying to pull you back into making decisions THEY approve of. All my independence has to be approved by my mother otherwise she throws a big ass tantrum and tries to guilt trip me into listening to her and/or makes me feel like my plan will fail. It’s infuriating. She treats me like I’m fucking Pinocchio with strings attached to my limbs.

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Emotional emeshment

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Thank god I’m not the only one. Like I feel like I need to be some fabricated version of myself around my parents (mostly mom), bc they don’t like who I actually am. My mom wants me to be her idealized version of me, and that ain’t fuckin happening. I feel like I can’t do anything without permission or a whole fight erupts bc my mom assumes I’m out doing immoral things, and I as a 24 yr old just want my freedom.

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These parents never had access to mental health services or diagnoses. Identify the neurodivergent one & I bet you can see that their actions are related to their undiagnosed condition & label of skills developed rawdogging life.

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