Neurodivergent on Yik Yak | I don’t think women are “better” at masking their autism, I just think the patriarchy is so bad that if a woman says or does something that’s not socially typical she’s just deemed a “bitch”.😞

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Neurodivergent 7w

I don’t think women are “better” at masking their autism, I just think the patriarchy is so bad that if a woman says or does something that’s not socially typical she’s just deemed a “bitch”.😞

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Anonymous 7w

Neurotypical women are taught to mask to make men feel more comfortable, it’s gross and sad

Anonymous 7w

when they listen to women at all 🫪

Anonymous 7w

or "quirky" or "weird girl"

Anonymous 7w

I do agree with you. Or women are labeled as a "pick me" for acting any way that society sees as different.

Anonymous 7w

Masking is so painful bc it works enough to where most people are ok with you, but still notice something’s off 😔

Anonymous 7w

As an autistic guy, I have to disagree. There’s nuance to what is considered “not socially typical”. There’s behavior that could be considered weird and then behavior considered offensive. If you consistently exhibit offensive behavior (unintentionally ofc, bc autism), that would get you labeled a bitch. If I were to, I’d be labeled a dick or asshole or something equivalent. Weird behavior wouldn’t typically get you labeled as a bitch.

Anonymous 7w

Or it could be because autism is more intense in males than in females and more prevalent in males as well.

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Anonymous

#4 7w

That’s not factually correct

Anonymous

#5 7w

What? It’s scientifically correct actually genius.

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Anonymous

#4 7w

It’s truly not

Anonymous

#5 7w

Plz sthu

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Anonymous

#4 7w

Notice how the screenshot you just shared says “diagnosed” with autism and not has autism. Which is literally the issue.

Anonymous

#4 7w

You said “more intense”, then screenshotted an AI overview that refers to higher rates of diagnosis, which is a different point entirely

Anonymous

#8 7w

Not saying this is the case but those are my thoughts as someone who also has 2 friends who are autistic women

Anonymous

#4 7w

Sorry, I'm jumping in late. But the reason it says that it is less prevalent in the female population is because women DO mask. Biological women are better at adapting to things than men are. So a woman low on the spectrum could look around and learn how to act "normal" to fit in. So there are far less women diagnosed than men because it's often overlooked in women. Sorry for the long rant, this is my major.

Anonymous

#8 7w

i'd think of it more along the lines of- if a man takes charge, its initiative or leadership, but when a woman does, she gets called bossy or a bitch. same rules apply here

Anonymous

#4 7w

An ai overview screenshot about diagnosis rates does not show that autism is more intense or more prevalent in males

Anonymous

#8 7w

you act odd or unsocial, you're charming or quiet (or autistic) and for us we get labeled prudish or prissy or bitchy for the same behaviors.

Anonymous

#8 7w

not always of course, but its not uncommon. i've had it happen to me for displaying similar behaviors to my male autistic cousin (same age) who gets labeled with the other listed characteristics.

Anonymous

#4 7w

it is more commonly DIAGNOSED. the same reason more boys get their diagnosis in early childhood, whereas girls tend to be diagnosed later teens and into adulthood. its not less prevalent, just less recognized.

Anonymous

#8 7w

“as a man i disagree” alright lol 😭😭😭 ofc you wouldn’t know you are not a woman

Anonymous

#11 7w

See my reply to my own comment. I’m just stating my opinion that is based on my own observations and the experiences my friends who are women have shared with me. I’ve already said I don’t know this to be true but it is my best observation.