Neurodivergent on Yik Yak | this is so mean but neurotypicals really just can’t cope ?? my nt friend was complaining nonstop about feeling awkward/uncomfy at the bar like i feel every single time we go. this is how i feel all the time. you can deal.

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Neurodivergent 5d

this is so mean but neurotypicals really just can’t cope ?? my nt friend was complaining nonstop about feeling awkward/uncomfy at the bar like i feel every single time we go. this is how i feel all the time. you can deal.

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Anonymous 5d

not even that but the obsession with “nothing is wrong with me therefore i don’t need to go to therapy/use a coping strategy” but then they constantly complain about a very fixable issue

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Anonymous 5d

No literally. People will be going “ugh this teacher gave me a bad grade and I don’t know why so I hate them now” and I’ll be like? Have you asked? Have you requested an explanation and maybe some guidance? And they’re like no cause the teacher sucks because they gave me a bad grade. Most times I’ve asked for help or for an explanation it’s gone fine and turns out they don’t hate me. Like. Come on.

Anonymous 5d

Are you sure your friend is nt?

Anonymous 5d

why do i want to be with a neurotypical person so badly??

Anonymous

#1 5d

and it’s like… neither of those things are even an indication something is wrong, it’s just that they have internalized ableism or something like that about it and don’t want to be associated with disordered people in the slightest and would rather look honestly worse, bc a lot of disordered ppl can figure shit out on their own and ask for help. not asking for help when you need it just makes you look worse than someone who does.

Anonymous

#4 5d

i mean pretty sure? she isnt diagnosed with anything and it seems like she has the resources to get a diagnosis if she needed one. why?

Anonymous

OP 4d

being uncomfortable at the bar isn’t something nt people are known for

Anonymous

#6 4d

nt people can be uncomfortable at bars sometimes?? and anyway this girl usually isnt which is my point

Anonymous

OP 4d

Nd can present differently in different people, & not having a diagnosis doesn’t necessarily mean they don’t have something🤷‍♀️ regardless, all feelings are valid & there’s no need to compare struggles. Unless she was acting like *she* has it worse than you in that regard?

Anonymous

OP 4d

I also feel like a Woman feeling Uncomfortable at A Bar is reasonably safety related... Your initial point does stand that nt people need to learn that ableism fucks up their own ability to cope, self reflect and problem solve themselves yeah. But this feels like its own thing. You're both allowed to feel uncomfortable for your own reasons. If you agree on it together then just leave, there, mutually affirming coping example

Anonymous

#7 4d

that is true but i didn’t know their gender

Anonymous

#4 4d

idk i think it’s a little weird to insinuate my friend is nd just because she felt uncomfortable in a bar once. maybe she is, i’m not her doctor, isk. and yes her feelings are valid but she has a habit of complaining about things that i have worse and it’s frustrating and i’m just venting

Anonymous

#7 4d

thats true (we’re both women) but it seemed more like she just felt awkward not unsafe

Anonymous

OP 4d

I’m not insinuating she’s nd, just pointing out it’s possible🙂

Anonymous

OP 4d

You have a point there too actually it IS really irritating when someone complains to you about things you have worse, especially if they've never helped or bother to even listen to you before ever (I had a friend that did that it drove me Insaneee)

Anonymous

#4 4d

i don’t mean this in A Way and i get your point but also not everything is a sign of being ND/something else, it’s not weird for someone to be uncomfortable at a bar for any number of reasons, it doesn’t necessarily have to be that they’re ND or even have anxiety or something, sometimes the vibe is just off; it’s possible but i don’t think just this would be enough to suggest it either