Neurodivergent on Yik Yak | Homies I could use some advice!!! I’ve got OCD and recently my rumination has gotten really really bad and re-hashing old conversations with my ex// trying to rehearse (hardly possible) future conversations with them too. Help?

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Neurodivergent 1w

Homies I could use some advice!!! I’ve got OCD and recently my rumination has gotten really really bad and re-hashing old conversations with my ex// trying to rehearse (hardly possible) future conversations with them too. Help?

Anonymous 1w

Idk how helpful this actually is but when I realize that that’s what’s happening I have to go like. “Oh this isn’t a productive thought this is just my personal equivalent to chewing on myself like an animal in captivity” and that at least helps to redirect it

Anonymous 1w

So this actually is going to sound awful- but it actually works- and I talked to my therapist about it and she actually stopped me in the middle of shitting on it as a coping mechanism and told me it was exactly what I was supposed to be doing. So here goes: Try telling the thought. “So what?” So what if that happened? Is there anything left to be learned from it? No? Let it go. Say uh buh bye bitch. 🤪👋🏻 Get out of my fuckin house. That’s literally what I say.

Anonymous 1w

do you

Anonymous

#2 1w

So what if xyz thing happens? So what if you were in the wrong? So what if they were a toxic mf. OCD will tell you you have to think about it for self awareness. You’ll feel guilty and unprepared. “I should reflect, I should think ahead” ect. But the hard truth is. Your brain is already wired to see so much. Overthinking is like zooming way in on something. It’s not as helpful as it seems. You’ll go from looking closer at the words in a book- to analyzing the composition of the paper. (Analogy)

Anonymous

#2 1w

And there’s a certain point- where reflection becomes rumination. Where zooming in looses the plot entirely. And that never helps anyone. It feels safe- yes. It gives you a sense of control- yes. It gives you a feeling of closure- yes. But it scrambles things up so much you lose yourself in it. And that’s not a life anyone deserves to live. Self reflection should lead to self awareness. It should give you more understanding. Not less. Rumination is not reflection. It’s torture.

Anonymous

#2 1w

….that works?

Anonymous

#1 1w

….that works?

Anonymous

#2 1w

It’s the thought equivalent of spraying your cat with a spray bottle when it’s getting into something that it shouldn’t

Anonymous

#1 1w

Oops commented on the wrong thing

Anonymous

#1 1w

i’ve heard that doesn’t work

Anonymous

#3 1w