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I will not lose another person. I will not lose another person. I will not lose another person. I will not lose another person. I am learning to appropriately express my emotions and respect boundaries. BPD is not winning today.
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Anonymous 6d

Don’t get me wrong, you are 100% responsible for your actions in a friendship, however your actions only make up 1/2 of those in a relationship. You can loose a friend and still have done nothing wrong. 😔

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Anonymous 6d

I can relate to this so much

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Anonymous 6d

I’m curious to hear what has happened in your past friendships!

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 6d

100 percent agree. I am lucky to still have the friends I do after how much I have deliberately pushed them away. Finally taking accountability for my actions is what I owe them and me .

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6d

Mhmm, but remember nobody is perfect, is you can do your best every day, that’s all anyone can ask for.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 6d

I attempted 4 times and put them through hell, muddled boundaries, and made them into attachment figures because my own were failing me. I definitely tend to go for like older people as friends, which is fine as long as the friendship is balanced, but oftentimes, it’s not. I also have autism so I feel like my older friends wind up taking on a parental role with me sometimes just because they have to look out for me, which is nice but it’s just a lot.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 6d

But I mean I am also an incredibly loyal friend I will say like I would die for my friends 100 percent, so I’m not a terrible friend or anything. I just need to work on boundaries because there’s just been so much abuse in my life that the way I attach is severely fucked

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6d

But also partially my favorite person’s fault as he calls me his daughter lmao

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6d

Wow you seem really self aware which is a huge step🥲 best of luck with everything!

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 6d

Thank you!

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