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My mother is so fucking exhausting. I don’t even have the energy to explain everything she is doing but it’s just so frustrating to have to constantly change my behavior to be the least in her way and then when I try to make space for myself she gets mad.
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Anonymous 16w

Turns out I did have the energy to explain what she was doing

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Anonymous 16w

Like I specifically delayed showering tonight because she ALWAYS needs the bathroom like three times while she’s getting ready for bed so no one else can shower during that time (like close to a full hour of sleep preparations honestly.) and now when I go down there she’s like “oops didn’t see your message you should’ve showered then I need the bathroom now. It’s honestly kinda your fault that I didn’t respond to you cause you should’ve come down to check.” FUCK YOU

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Anonymous 16w

i have 0 advice, but know ur not alone in this one. i live w my bfs family & his mom is JUST LIKE THIS!!! on days she works, there is literally like a 2hr time frame around when she gets home where like no one else is allowed to use the bathroom bc if someone is in there when she gets home (even just doing smth quickly) she FREAKS out & screams abt how we all know she just wants to come home from work & shower. then, she takes an hour minimum to get out of there.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

Okay maybe not THAT long of sleep preparation but she doesn’t let you use it for like a good half hour before then either cause she WILL need it when she eventually gets off her ass to do it. Fuck me it’s so frustrating I am working with my therapist to go to bed earlier but she makes it so hard. Any time I do anything she doesn’t like she just starts turning me into the asshole in the scenario just because I change her schedule a little bit. It’s so frustrating cause it makes me question if

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

I’m being a dick or not but literally all I am trying to do is shower earlier. But I have to tiptoe around her schedule SO MUCH and it’s SO INFURIATING because if I do something at the wrong time now I am officially in her way and she makes it a big deal and it’s just EXHUASTING. I hate this woman so much I hate how she makes the ways I use to defend myself from her into justifications for why I am evil and abusive when all I’m doing is trying to protect myself from her.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

I honestly might cry I just hate living here so much she makes me feel so evil and worthless and useless and hopeless. Whenever I try to do something she doesn’t like she makes me feel awful about it. And whenever she does something that harms me she just doesn’t care and keeps doing it and tells me I’m being a dick when I tell her to stop. I hate this place so much.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

I barely even wanna shower anymore. I’ve just had such a shitty day arguing with her and I’m just so tired at this point. And she’s gonna make me mow tomorrow too and if I don’t she’ll tell me I’m being an asshole. Ugh. I don’t even mind mowing but when it’s in addition to everything else it’s just another thing she guilts me into doing. I hate this. I hate being made to feel like such a monster for things that I mostly do just in response to her shittiness or to defend myself.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

I hate feeling like if I don’t let her control my life then she’ll guilt trip me into complying. She’ll never admit to any of this either. Never in a million years. She’ll never apologize or acknowledge it she’ll only just tell me I’m being an abusive dick. And half the time she makes me believe it. Hell after writing all this I’m still wondering if I’m secretly the asshole and just framing things in a way to make it seem to my benefit.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

She makes me hate myself sometimes I think. And ugh fuck I’m wondering if I only said that to get sympathy and to justify to myself being a dick to her. Same for that sentence too. I hate this I hate this I hate this.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 16w

she does the same shit w the washing machine. she plans when she wants to use it in her head, doesn’t tell ANYONE, then when she goes to use it & something is already is there, she goes off & screams abt how this is the only possible time she has to do them. ok then why didn’t u let everyone know that??????? we can’t read ur mind???????

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 16w

same thing again if she asks me & my bf to go somewhere with her. she will plan it out in her head, not tell us, then the day of or day b4 whatever she wants to do, she’ll ask us if we wanna go (expecting a yes) & when we say no bc we weren’t given any heads up or we already have plans (bc we didn’t know abt these made up ones in her head) she freaks out & plays victim & cries abt how we hate her… even tho we have asked that she lets us know when she wants to do something in advance.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 16w

she also never shuts up abt weight & how “fat” she is & how everyone else looks, so she makes me want to kms bc i’ve struggled w body issues my whole life, but was able to pull myself out of it before i met her. now i legit hate myself again & hide in baggy t-shirts so no one has the chance to say smth. so sorry, no advice at all bc she just makes me want to slam my head into the wall & i try to spend as little time in the house as possible to avoid her. but ur not alone. i get the frustration

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