Anonymous OP 19h

If it makes a difference I was only diagnosed with ADHD last march (I’m 22) and I really don’t know much about if the overstimulation is caused by that

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Anonymous #1 19h

if your friend isn’t neurodivergent themselves, they have no room to speak on our struggles and how we manage them.

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Anonymous #2 19h

I think anyone should be looking for ways to make their life easier/better no matter what conditions they do or don’t have

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Anonymous #1 19h

Apparently, and my other friend just said this to me today, but they were told they have 2 symptoms of autism….but so do I. That doesn’t mean I have it, she’s now saying that she’s autistic

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Anonymous OP 19h

so none of yall are diagnosed & yet they’re trying to gatekeep a stimulation toy of all things? it’s clear she just wants to feel special

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Anonymous #1 19h

Yeah.My other friend who is around her a lot more says she’s “playing it up” and infantizing herself. Suddenly saying she can’t do things she’s done 100s of times due to autism, not like sensory reasons either. Idk more but that’s what I was told

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Anonymous OP 18h

if it were me, i’d confront her about her problematic behavior & if she’s not receptive to it, we’d no longer be friends

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Anonymous #3 18h

Idk, I have diagnosed ADHD, and I’m just trying to explain that I don’t have autism, but people are telling me that the things that I do are only for autistic people. I’m sorry if I didn’t explain it very well. I’m kind of bad at explaining through writing/text.

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Anonymous OP 18h

I specifically stated that I don’t have autism to give a bigger picture as to what’s kind of going on. The problems that I do exhibit with overstimulation was actually told to me that it was overstimulation by a therapist. I did not know what it was for a long time.

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Anonymous #1 13h

Or lowkey just distance urself and go find other friends

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Anonymous #5 13h

U don’t always have to change ppl sometimes it’s ok to just decided that u don’t fw them anymore and move on with ur life

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Anonymous #7 13h

The fact that they don’t even realize overstimulation is very much frequently experienced in adhd, and not just autism, shows that they don’t know what they’re talking about. The fact that they self-diagnosed after only relating to 2 symptoms, and not even after doing a lot of research into it seems odd to me. Plus, fidget toys and loop plugs are not solely for autistic people, technically anyone can use them, including neurotypicals

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Anonymous #6 13h

Speaking of weighted blankets I trained my dog to “give weight” (lay on my legs) really helps lol

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Anonymous #7 13h

It’s weird to say someone’s not allowed to use certain helpful tools, as common as fidget toys. I genuinely think they’re projecting their own actions onto you. You’re not the one faking for attention, they are! I would cut them off. Don’t let them deny your diagnosis. You’re the one that actually has one so use that to argue back against their false accusations. If your literal diagnosis is not enough as proof, then their own self-diagnosis based off of merely two symptoms, surely can’t be

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Anonymous OP 13h

Overstimulation is a frequent known symptom of adhd. It just might not look the exact same as autistic overstimulation. I have both, so I’ve done tons of research. I’m not an expert ofc, but overstimulation is definitely something both conditions can experience. Either way, there’s nothing wrong with using tools that help you, even if you weren’t the main consumer they were advertising to. I’m honestly pissed for you because what they’re doing is ableist and harms NDs like us

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