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Neurodivergent 1d
I zone out when talking to my bf a lot and I have processing issues so he often repeats himself (which be hates) and im trying to stop being so spacey so I can be more attentive in our conversations is there anything I can do? Does anyone relate?
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Anonymous 1d

I relate to this so much omg. I feel so bad when I do because I love that he’s willing to tell me about what’s going on or what he’s currently into and I just space out. It’s not that I’m not interested I just space out and I feel so bad.

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Anonymous 1d

I think it’s an issue of me multitasking/doing something while we talk so my attention goes into that? I’m scared there’s something wrong with me

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Anonymous 1d

Do you take any meds? Those could help, especially Adderall

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Anonymous 1d

It happens to me as well. Firstly, he needs to understand you intrinsically as a person. You’re not doing it on purpose and it’s childish for him to get upset because of how your brain works. However, I’d say that looking that person in the eye or watching their mouth and repeating each word in my head has been really helpful when trying to pay attention in conversations.

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Anonymous replying to -> sage_cyclone46 1d

I’m on Zoloft which im Lwk worried makes me more spacey

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

It’s so reassuring to know im not alone Ty :<

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

Nah. There ain’t nothing wrong with you. It just might mean you’re not as good at multitasking than you once thought

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

I would also like it to stop. So whenever we’re talking I just try to put everything down and pay attention and I ask questions to make sure I’m following along.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

Honestly yeah I might have to start doing this. Usually my bf and I bond over video games together but when it’s a faster paced game most of my attention goes into that unfortunately

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

Me too lol. It helps with my depression but i also take Adderall (for my ADHD) that makes me more alert

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

Maybe try spending some real, quality, one on one time with each other

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Anonymous replying to -> sage_cyclone46 1d

My therapist wanted me to get tested with adhd- her theory was that since the Zoloft lowered my anxiety I could potentially have adhd symptoms that were just masked by my anxiety for a while. Idk tho cause I have ocd and I feel like any adhd traits is js that :p

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Anonymous replying to -> sage_cyclone46 1d

We’re long distance :< unfortunately FaceTiming and video games is really all we got lol but when we see eachother irl it’s great

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

Got a whole ass concoction going on huh 😭

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

Yeah that’s hard cuz there’s an extra component of digital distractedness

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Anonymous replying to -> sage_cyclone46 1d

LMFAO

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

😂

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

Being distracted by those is not much of a help but I get it. It’s hard.

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