Anonymous working_tgirl 2w

I wish I lost it early

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Anonymous OP 2w

I promise you that you’re better off. I’ve been used for sex so many times like

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Anonymous working_tgirl 2w

I immensely disagree idk I feel like both of us are in such different situations we can’t understand each other. I feel like a man child and completely undesirable. You have at least been desired and have romantic/sexual experience

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Anonymous OP 2w

Honestly that attitude is what makes you a man child, not the fact you haven’t had sex yet. You’re putting way too much importance on that and it’s probably an indication of some other things you may be trying to avoid dealing with.

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Try not giving a fuck

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Anonymous working_tgirl 2w

How? It’s a very important thing bruh you just don’t value it cuz you get it all the time

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Anonymous #5 2w

So how long am I suppose to wait? Till I’m the 30 year weird undesirable virgin? Most people lose it by 20 I’m already past that now and in weird territory

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Anonymous OP 2w

Obsessing over “virginity” is not good for your mental health. As it comes across— you seem to not be worried about “virginity” itself, but you are more preoccupied with what “status” you think you have from it, and that’s not good for you. I think you’d benefit a lot from finding sex positive groups or even a sex therapist to help work through the stigmas and baggage you carry with you about it. Your value and worth are NOT tied to your sexual encounters.

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Anonymous #5 2w

I think it very much is. I’ve heard other people be insulted using the term to associate them as low value people. I feel low value because of this and I feel old for not having done it. Sexual encounters mean you are desired for who you are. I am not desired

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Anonymous OP 2w

It really is not, and that’s why you need to work on your understanding of your sexuality and separate it from your sense of worth. You are not “less” for not having had sex and you will not be “more” when you do. Sex is not everything, and MANY have a very poor relation to it.

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Anonymous OP 2w

Focus on you. Work on your sense of self first and foremost, and separate it from sex. Rushing is a great way to mess things up and make yourself uncomfortable or even cause physical harm, and nobody should have that happen. What you hear about from people’s conceptions and understandings of porn and hookup scenes and toxic masculinity morons like andrew tate are not reality.

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Anonymous #5 2w

If it’s truly something you want to do, it will happen. Make sure it’s something you have set up to be as safe and positive an experience as possible.

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Anonymous #5 2w

What about getting a partner? I haven’t had one all ive dealt with is endless rejections. How do I not feel low about it all?

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Anonymous OP 2w

That’s something you’ll have to work on. It’s not easy for many, but it makes a world of difference. I’ve been all across the board with my own struggles, too. I promise that there are people who will want to be with you. Some people love a direct “let’s get into it”, others are repulsed by that approach. Some apps work better than others depending on your area and how you carry yourself. The best thing to do is be authentic to who you are instead of trying to force yourself into another’s idea.

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Anonymous working_tgirl 2w

stfu?? 😭

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