Anonymous OP 11w

My grandmother is the most authoritarian narcissistic patriarchal woman ever. Being around her makes me want to scream because she thinks she is allowed to control every aspect of our lives just because she’s older than us and we’re her offspring. She thinks she gets “the last word” (direct quote) on every single decision we make. She told us that pretty much directly about a week ago. My whole family is so controlling it is fucking rage inducing. Every single one of them save my sister…

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Anonymous OP 11w

…ignores my boundaries as if they don’t exist. I can’t make a decision they disagree with without them trying to convince me that it’s a terrible idea and that I’ll fail horribly at whatever I’m trying to do (on the contrary every time I actually follow through with one of those decisions it is always wildly successful). I can’t stick up for myself and my own boundaries without them telling me I’m being abusive or a dick. I can’t ever get mad at their constant poking and prodding lest they…

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Anonymous OP 11w

…Once again tell me I’m being abusive or a dick. They violate my boundaries dozens of times in a row but no it’s my anger at their narcissism that’s the issue. And trust me I have CONSIDERED whether I’m the problem. Many times. But I never have these issues with anyone else I interact with. And my therapists validate my perspective. So it definitely feels like it’s their fucking problem at this point. Today what specifically got me frustrated was when we were trying to watch a movie my…

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Anonymous OP 11w

…grandmother repeatedly started talking over the movie about something random. Despite everyone else telling her to not do that. Like a dozen times. That combined with her interrupting me and everyone else CONSTANTLY. And she cant blame her (admittedly pretty bad) hearing because she did it while LOOKING at me and SEEING me talk. That combined with starting to randomly talk about politics which I have made crystal clear I don’t wanna hear about so I don’t get so stressed and depressed that I…

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Anonymous OP 11w

…am unable to keep progress with my own goals and get my life back together after a period of burnout. It’s been a lot of work and I’m proud of my progress. However it is incredibly difficult to get myself out of those hopeless headspaces so I just want to avoid the topic altogether. But none of them care enough to actually stop talking about it. My mother says it’s difficult but it’s been over six months and she still mentions it at least every other day and usually every day. I don’t think…

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Anonymous OP 11w

…it’s THAT difficult to avoid one singular topic. I think she just doesn’t give enough of a fuck. So basically after today I am just fucking exhausted. I’m done with these fucking people. And I’m not going to say another goddamned word to them today if I can help it.

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Anonymous #1 11w

Thank you. Honestly idk if I have the bandwidth for anyone else’s issues today though ngl😭 I just kinda wanna take tonight for self care frankly.

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Anonymous OP 11w

(I downvoted this comment bcos yikyak is being fucking stupid and arranging comments based on likes instead of chronological, and I was very confused abt this post bcos the comments were out of order. HOWEVER I wish you the best and feel free to reach out to me if you want help w college apps)

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Anonymous #2 11w

LMAO thanks that’s been really annoying me today too lol. And thank you🫶 My college apps are basically done atp though. I’m just waiting for a response from the one I most wanna get into. I think my chances are pretty good. The website said it should be about a week or two for me to get a response.

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Anonymous OP 11w

Yeah you should. I'm doing that too

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Anonymous #1 11w

I’m gonna take a big ass shower🙂‍↕️ I just got a haircut yesterday and it’s GREAT so I’m feeling very motivated keep up with personal grooming.

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