Neurodivergent on Yik Yak | Aghhh I feel bad because I know my partner (who’s autistic) doesn’t mean anything bad by it but there are times where I’ll say “I like ___” and they’ll infodump for several minutes about why that thing I like is “objectively” bad. It doesn’t feel good

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Neurodivergent 3w

Aghhh I feel bad because I know my partner (who’s autistic) doesn’t mean anything bad by it but there are times where I’ll say “I like ___” and they’ll infodump for several minutes about why that thing I like is “objectively” bad. It doesn’t feel good

Anonymous 3w

I’m autistic and my family used to tell me to not bash something when another person likes it. Or you could try something like, “When I say I like something, please do not share any negative facts about it unless you are genuinely concerned for my safety. I need to be validated and supported”

Anonymous 3w

And I know it’s just that they’re excited to share their opinion on something they know a lot about, and the opinion just happens to be negative. Still doesn’t feel good though!!

Anonymous 3w

That’s so valid. On the bright side, I think it’s something that you could probably explain pretty clearly.

Anonymous

#1 3w

Definitely! I’ve communicated it to them before and they were apologetic but it still happens 😭

Anonymous

OP 3w

Maybe you can come up with some kind of signal to let them know in the moment when they are doing it so they can stop. If letting them know when it isn’t happening isn’t effective it might be worth a try.