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Neurodivergent 7w
i have a question for my fellow autists: do people messing around all the time make you more drained than a regular social interaction would be? i’ve found the more someone messes around with me, the more drained i am. is this just me or am i not alone 😭
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Anonymous 7w

yes! i love my friends sm. but when they start joking around more than normal, like jokingly throwing things at each other, or just things like that. i definitely get more drained and go more quiet bc idk what to do w myself in the situation. i just sit there laughing or smiling bc idk what else to do😅

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Anonymous 7w

I interpreted “messing around” as like teasing, but I see you mean something else. But while I’m in this thought- I hate when people tease me, unless we’re like super close. Mostly bc I can’t tell if they’re being serious or not and it causes a lot of anxiety in me. But I also see what you mean with people joking around and such.

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Anonymous 7w

what do you mean by messing around this makes no sense

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Anonymous 7w

no for me

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 7w

sorry that sounded weird i only had so many characters lol, i basically meant is it more draining when people are joking a lot in a basic social setting. so take a regular social interaction with nothing really happening vs one with the other person joking a lot. that second one is harder to deal with because its more draining, or at least that’s how it feels for me.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 7w

this is just my thinking but it would make sense for it to be more tiring bc i assume u usually have to go through more of an extensive internal thought process to be able to determine whether a person is actually joking vs being serious by taking into account their body language, tone, facial expressions, other ppls reactions, etc in order to come to a conclusion. so doing this over & over again repeatedly in one convo is gonna tire u out whereas in a normal convo u dont usually have to do that

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 7w

also when someone is joking & ur kinda put in the spot where u have to figure out whether theyre joking or being serious it can feel stressful so being exposed to that stress repeatedly under a short period of time might also wear u down

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 7w

thank u very much! i wasn’t able to put this into words correctly before but this helps a lot

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 7w

teasing and joking both tbh

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