Neurodivergent on Yik Yak | You aren’t to blame for your trauma responses—you literally can’t control them—but you ARE responsible for the damage you cause during an episode and telling others what your triggers, reactions, and deescalating responses to them are in advance.

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Neurodivergent 2w

You aren’t to blame for your trauma responses—you literally can’t control them—but you ARE responsible for the damage you cause during an episode and telling others what your triggers, reactions, and deescalating responses to them are in advance.

Anonymous 2w

Agree 100%. I scream when I’m triggered, usually just stop/get away/help, but the sudden loud outburst often scares people. It doesn’t make me a bad person or anything like that. I’m doing my best; I’m in therapy and on meds, so it isn’t my “fault” in a typical blame way. But it is my responsibility to do my best to avoid my triggers, and if I am unable to, I am responsible for apologizing and explaining to anyone I yelled at or scared.

Anonymous 2w

Agreed! I know I get violent when I get really scared so when I feel it coming on I isolate myself. I know everyone has different levels of awareness. But I think knowing your triggers and responses is one of the best things you can do when managing symptoms. For multiple reasons. It’s just plain irresponsible to know you’re going to react a certain way to a situation and then putting yourself in it anyways. Ie- watching horror movies in public, going to a gun range when upset, ect.

Anonymous 2w

If you’re not to blame how can you ultimately be responsible for the damage

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Anonymous 2w

slave morality ngmi choose to be the master of your own world and don’t allow yourself a moment to think otherwise do not invite weakness just because it’s easier to take comfort in being a mere victim

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Anonymous

#1 2w

because you’re not to blame for being traumatized but it’s your responsibility to manage yourself

Anonymous

#1 2w

Responsibility means you’re accountable, obligated to care for or do something. Blame tends to involve shame. It’s not that person’s fault they have trauma, so they’re not to blame for THAT. But they are responsible for what THEY do based on it. Ex: You can’t control what happens during a PTSD episode but you are responsible for not intentionally placing yourself in triggering situations and if you hurt someone during one you DO need to own up to that and make up for it afterward.