Anonymous OP 15w

there’s no dominos in the store IIIII HAVE TO ORDER IT BECAUSE ITS HARD OR SOMETHING??? WHEN I DONT EVEN LIVE AT THE PLACE WHERE THEY WANT THE DOMINOS NOR AM I PLAYING L

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Anonymous OP 15w

I’m so fucking tired I work a piece of shit job that is destroying my mind and body, I have to do everything for everyone and I can’t even fucking SLEEP.

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Anonymous #1 15w

Exception being the kittens. I understand the animals are innocent. That sounds like a complicated one.

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Anonymous #1 15w

No ur right. I’ve gotten ok at setting boundaries in every department except helping people. I am so overworked and overextended it’s insane. I wake up angry and frustrated every single day and it makes me so lonely because I don’t want to be around other people when I’m like that. I just know how it feels to not have help and it makes me feel awful to not help people

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Anonymous OP 15w

I think a lot of people have that tendency (especially NDs because we want to add value to compensate for where we think we don’t measure up- not sure if that bit applies to you, though).

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Anonymous OP 15w

When you help people and feel overextended, are the other people like “[name], pleeease help me with this report/closing down the shop/specific task, I just can’t get it done”, or do you find yourself offering things mainly because you don’t see others doing them?

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Anonymous #1 15w

I offer because I know others won’t help them. But sometimes I feel like they genuinely don’t really need the help and just don’t really want to do the task themselves, which is usually where the issues begin I guess. Like the ordering dominos thing. It’s really as simple as looking online where you like to shop, idk why they asked me to do it.

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Anonymous OP 15w

I don’t know the nuances of your specific situations, but you may find a more peaceful life over time if you become more able to let things happen (or not happen) - especially if it’s not been directly assigned to you

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Anonymous OP 15w

It’s normal to get assigned something as part of a group project (and as it’s being assigned, you might have the chance to ask if someone else can switch tasks with you). but that’s different than people just shrugging or passing the buck, or weaponizing incompetence, or not caring enough to make something happen. If they didn’t care enough to do it themselves - or at least assign tasks in an organized way- it’s doubtful they will even appreciate your effort. Because they didn’t really want it

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Anonymous OP 15w

One more thing – if everyone’s always genuinely overworked, it may be a management and staffing issue. It’s definitely not your responsibility, and if you help in an unsustainable way, you’re actually *rewarding* poor management because stuff gets done without the boss actually doing anything about the workload. In a good workplace, you could advocate for what people need, or at least talk with your supervisor and coworkers about how to prioritize when it cant all get done

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Anonymous #1 15w

the work environment specifically won’t change. We have begged them for so much and they truly do not care. Thats the one place I try my hardest not to reward their bad behavior.

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Anonymous OP 15w

that is shitty. It probably feels like you have to help people for them to not be underwater at work. But do they do the same for you when they have the opportunity?

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Anonymous #1 15w

Some do, but only specific people. Those are usually the people I will stay later to help. I’m not rewarding bad coworkers, even if it’s not their fault that we’re managed poorly

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