Anonymous #1 9w

idk what you consider small talk but I think of it like the ambiguous “oh how are you?” at the cash register, which could mean they want to hear abt your day or they genuinely dgaf and think you’re annoying if you say anything beyond “it’s been fine”

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Anonymous #6 9w

I work in a customer-facing job if you can’t tell

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Anonymous #6 9w

Yeah, any questions at the start of a conversation is a pleasantry. You can always hit people with humor or a joke if you want to try building rapport, but all in all, keep a topic short 30-60 seconds unless the person digs in and wants to chat or kill time. Don’t hit em with the 20 minute story of your weekend, unless they’re telling you via body language they have the time to kill.

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Anonymous #5 9w

yeah it’s not hard to know how it works, but that doesn’t mean it isnt endlessly annoying. why tf you gonna interrupt me vibing ask me if how my day is when you don’t care about the answer? if it’s just for the surface level human connection then they should just call someone and have a real convo. we both know we aren’t going to say anything of value.

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Anonymous #6 9w

Americans are awkward, they like to fill perceived uncomfortable silences with words. Even if it’s meaningless noise to fill the void. When you understand that, the “all people are NPC’s dude, makes a whole lot of sense”

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Anonymous #5 9w

Having to make a formula to have a conversation is masking just fyi

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Anonymous OP 9w

And? As I said before I’m autistic AF, like society wasn’t built for me, but it doesn’t mean I don’t want to blend in from time to time? Is my act perfect absolutely not, but sometimes being passible just has people thinking I’m fun quirky and not weird quirky.

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Anonymous #5 9w

I’m sorry that society has made you feel that you need to mask. You shouldn’t have to

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Anonymous #5 9w

I know that it “makes sense,” but that doesn’t mean it’s any less annoying and meaningless

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Anonymous OP 9w

I mean, in retrospect that probably explains a lot, but these days I’m mostly just an introvert. My mask is like pants, gotta put it on before you go out the door 😂 Honestly wouldn’t even know how not to mask if I wanted to these days.

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