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Y’all I’m really struggling rn. I’m diagnosed with ADHD and suspect I’m autistic as well. I just have such a hard time functioning with day to day stuff but it makes no sense to me. I do well when I have work bc I’m busy and know what I’m supposed
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Anonymous 3w

To be doing but on my days off when I have no plans I just rot in bed or on the couch and watch tv or scroll on my phone all day and can’t make myself get up to go to the bathroom or eat or anything. I keep getting food delivered bc I can’t make myself get up to eat otherwise. I can’t shower until the last minute if at all and idk everything just seems a lot harder than it needs to be. I feel like I need some kind of support and someone helping me make a plan for the day or keeping me

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Anonymous 3w

I’d look into getting medication if you can afford it. An explanation for those unaware: chemical imbalances in the brain negatively impact one’s ability to function in everyday life, something medication can correct And a lot of what I do on hard days are compromises. If I can’t brush my teeth in the morning then I brush them in the afternoon, if I can’t only brush my teeth once per day at least I brushed them. Dry shampoo, lotion, and deodorant are my best friends since they’re less demanding

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Anonymous 3w

don’t be too hard on yourself for food delivery. maybe ideally you would get up and cook or pick up food yourself, but you had a problem (not eating) and fixed it, even if it’s a temporary fix. next time you go out, stop at the grocery store and pick up some microwave meals/noodles etc. since the food delivery thing got you up, maybe try scheduling something, buy tickets to a show or a baseball game or some touristy walking tour or whatever

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Anonymous 3w

A few ideas that you can take or leave depending on your situation: make a plan for the day beforehand, especially one that gets you out of the house so you get showered and dressed… put your phone far from your bed on the weekend, like charge it downstairs or something… gamify the tasks youre supposed to be doing

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Anonymous 3w

For the food, I found Clean Eatz really helpful. They offer a meal plan with microwaved meals that are fairly balanced (they make the meals fresh each week). It’s a chain so they might have one in your area.

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Anonymous 3w

This is soooo me

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

Accountable to get stuff done like laundry meal prep etc. And I feel like crap on these days I just lay around and do nothing and my friend is like oh it’s so nice you get a day to relax but it’s not relaxing it’s just me neglecting my needs and dissociating all day I’m sick of it. Can anyone relate or have advice?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

And it’s hard bc I appear to be functioning well on the outside but when I’m alone and have days like this I feel like I can’t do anything myself and if I told someone irl that I needed help they wouldn’t understand

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3w

like if a financial incentive works, use that (as long as you’re able to financially.) for a while, i would pretty much only get up for class, food, or a baseball game. once i started getting out more, it was easier to self motivate to just walk around for a little bit, even though im still not great about it. fr tho food delivery saved my ass cause otherwise i wasn’t eating or getting up

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 3w

than a full blown shower and get the job done. Sometimes I even use soap and a wet rag on certain parts of my body I’d also possibly recommend charging your phone outside of grabbing distance from your bed. It forces me to get out of bed and it also helps me sleep since I don’t doomscroll right before bed

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

I don’t have direct advice but I can definitely relate, and the main thing I’d tell you is try to remember that you are doing enough. You want to change, and you’re trying even if you can’t see the progress! Don’t be ashamed of the things you can’t do, celebrate little wins 💕

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