Anonymous #1 8w

Thank you 😊 I am proud of myself for advocating for myself even though it was difficult on my mental health in this situation. Being yelled at like that was very triggering

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Anonymous OP 8w

Yes I can understand that with how I grew up too. Wishing you all the best 🫶

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Anonymous #1 8w

Thank you. Sorry you had to go through that bullshit

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Anonymous OP 8w

It sounds to me like both you and them are blaming their autism for their actions. This isn’t “someone who’s autistic can’t live with another autistic”, this is “someone who is an asshole is being an asshole to the person they live with as well”. They’re not verbally abusive and unreceptive towards you and others because of the autism, it’s because that’s how they’ve learned they’ll get their way. If they’re in therapy for anything currently, bring it up to them that they should discuss this

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Anonymous #2 8w

I’m not making excuses for him. I am not blaming his autism. I am also autistic! I’m just describing the situation because I have learned from experience that if I don’t explain enough detail, people end up assuming things that aren’t true, like now lol. And he is in therapy.

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Anonymous #2 8w

No one is blaming his autism for his actions. That’s not what’s happening here. Me and my other roommate are holding him accountable for his behavior. I was just explaining what was going on. His family doesn’t hold him accountable but we aren’t his family.

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Anonymous #2 8w

Aha gotcha. Yeah the way you framed it seems to me like he’s an asshole because he’s autistic, as mentioning he’s autistic doesn’t seem particularly relevant to this context unless it’s at play somehow. I’m just confused how it’s connected lol

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Anonymous #2 8w

I just wanted to clarify that we both are autistic. Since the name of this yy is literally neurodivergent, it’s not that irrelevant. For example, in intersectional affinity spaces, I will share that i am an autistic trans person. There are different spectrums to being autistic and he does struggle with his autism around things like this so it is relevant.

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Anonymous OP 8w

Oh no I meant it didn’t seem relevant to the problem at hand, I kinda assumed that because you’re posting here you’re neurodivergent. I have dyslexia so I might just be massively misreading things. Am audhd too

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Anonymous #2 8w

I have also been in other living situations where I had a roommate that was also autistic and she didn’t get along with me because our autism access needs literally conflicted with each other so that’s also why I brought that up, because during conflict, it also feels similar with this roommate.

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Anonymous OP 8w

I also used to have roommates that blamed shitty behavior on their neurodivergence, but then turned around and said my asking to be treated like a human was abusive and I got sent a whole bunch of links about how autism and narcissism overlapped (ironic). To me it sounded like your situation could’ve been headed that way. Apologies for the assumptions

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Anonymous #2 8w

There are different challenges that some autistic folks experience, and my roommate has been experiencing that with me and my other roommate, so that’s why it is relevant

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Anonymous #2 8w

No my situation wasn’t going in that direction at all. I’m sorry that was your situation but that’s not my reality and wasn’t what I communicated here at all. It is very common for some folks with autism to have interpersonal conflict issue’s especially around roommates and I was just explaining the facts.

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Anonymous OP 8w

It seems like I’m missing something, was there another post with earlier info made? I see your follow up comments here but there seems to be info referenced that’s not here. You didn’t mention another roommate or previous experience in this post until now from what I can see. There’s tons of posts here each day and this is the only part of this story I’ve seen

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Anonymous #2 8w

There’s a limited word count when you make posts until you get to the comment section. That’s why I’m relaying this info here. I don’t really have the capacity to go on and on for hours about this. But you should trust that I know what my experiences are because im living it with this roommate.

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Anonymous OP 8w

👍👌

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Anonymous #2 8w

I also don’t feel a need to have to defend every detail of my living situation for you to think this is valid or not. These experiences are real. It’s okay to just say “hey I’m sorry this is going on.”

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Anonymous OP 8w

I’m not trying to invalidate you, I’m trying to understand based on limited info. I don’t recall saying i don’t think you’re going through this, but I did say essentially I think you’re minimizing the situation and you shouldn’t do that to yourself.

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