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let me finish before u make assumptions but i lowkey understand the appeal of traditional family now. cause how the fuck am i supposed to be an emotionally stable mother, an academically successful career woman, AND a well rounded, pleasant to be aroun
how am i supposed to be successful at feeding myself, bathing myself, exercising myself, nourishing my mind, keeping myself entertained/happy, forming and maintaining relationships of all kind, AND have a career???
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Anonymous 1w

around individual…. those were the three choice back in the day and u could only really be one… mother, husband, or person

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Anonymous 1w

I will say that friends /family are meant to help with this, but my god it’s so hard… even taking care of just urself is so much that I sometimes don’t want a partner to have to deal with both their shit and mine

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Anonymous 1w

I don’t know who I am and I’ve been in this meat suit for over 3 decades. It definitely doesn’t help when you have a kid, they suck all the life from you and use it to do the complete opposite of what you want. I’m a lackluster person and parent, the exact thing I swore I’d never be.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

here i am struggling to take care of myself and form a personality, wdym i have to have a job and develop internally (in ways i struggle to even describe with words) if i have any hope of responsibly having children (ie i need to unlearn all my neuroticness, practice selflessness, become emotionally stable and patient and learn how to raise a child)

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

There has to be a way for you to find a bit more of urself and be the parent u wanna be- is there a local community u can join?

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