instead of being taught how to regulate my emotions i was forced into my room at the slightest sigh of a meltdown which is so damaging to a child’s brain. to be cut off from connection when you need it most

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parents can have a bad mood but god forbid a child feels any type of negative emotion

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I used to get in trouble as a kid too, but when I was a teenager and would get “too emotional” my mom would tell me to take a midol even when it wasn’t about that and when I would tell her that she would blame my “teenage hormones.” But when she would angry or act out she would blame it on pms and wouldn’t even take midol or she would blame it on being sick

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I got a lot of FIX YOUR FACE!

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My teachers always got really mad when i got anxious, sometimes my dad too, and my parents constantly think Im in a bad mood with my RBF. They also seem to think its a sign im fucked up in the head that i dont see the world with their rose colored glasses

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Yeah, up until I was like 12 I’d get spanked for crying/having emotions. I’m 20 now and to this day I still get yelled at if I’m not all sunshine and rainbows to them. It’s hard because A) I hate them, and B) my face is rather angry at resting point

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I got told to stop crying in my room when I got in trouble once lol I can’t even remember what I was in trouble for

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Still remember I was in a bad mood during my piano lesson and it’s not like I was trying to be disrespectful or anything but I guess it showed in my playing so my teacher hit me with her ruler to stay focused (this is common for Asians)

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“stop crying before i give you something to cry about” - the usual quote from my father “spoiled brat” - when i didn’t want to bike home after i had gotten into a bike accident (caused by him but obv he blamed it on 5yo me) that left me bleeding with road rash across the entire left side of my body and requiring stitches on my face

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I’m never having kids but I think this is something that all kids should be taught: it’s perfectly okay and natural to have negative emotions, even unreasonable ones. You can’t control what you feel. What matters is how you choose to express those feelings. God, that would have made my life so much better.

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My family always punished me for having emotions and now I’m an adult and I don’t think I’ve cried once in the last 3 years Lmao

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Never forget the “what are your sad for? I can give you a reason to be sad” like idk mom I stopped being happy at 6

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I was my families therapist so my parents and sibling could all be mad and yell but god forbid I even look upset I was responsible for managing everyone's emotions and expected to handle things, like my sibling bullying me, as though I were the adult it's really wild looking back at it

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I’ve been thinking a lot about how I was treated by teachers at school as a kid. I was undiagnosed but showed clear signs of neurodivergence, but they just scolded me and I never understood why I was in trouble for being me

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My mom still gets mad if I’m upset and I’m 21 😔

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