Anonymous #1 5d

yeah i’ll definitely retreat for an hour or two at some point lol. i trust my friends to take care of things while im gone!

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Anonymous #1 5d

Second both of these. You could also try reaching out to a trusted friend who will be at the party and ask them to help you monitor things. You’re one person, don’t be afraid to rely on friends!

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Anonymous #3 5d

Not OP, but I feel like the rules arn’t cut and dry it’s more about communication. Tell people what your plans are. “I got 2 cases of beer, and enough Halloween candy to make us all sick” if you want something besides that, feel free to bring it for yourself or others!” If others offer to bring something, ask for a desert or an hors d’oeuvre. If you’re hosting a party during meal time though you’re on the hook for the main dish. Unless you tell people it’s a potluck upfront.

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Anonymous #1 5d

Oh I see. Thanks I’ve always been curious and it’s always these little things I’ve no idea about

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Anonymous #3 5d

Yeah, a lot of college parties I went to were BYOB (bring your own beer) as people didn’t want to be responsible for accidentally loading up a freshman, but I’ll say people get a little more accommodating when they have a job and a place of their own.

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Anonymous #1 5d

Also what’s like meal time for dinner? Personally I don’t have like a set time so what’s like a socially acceptable time for dinner parties and if I don’t wanna provide dinner, what’s like a time to set for late night parties

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Anonymous #3 5d

Kinda. My friends are bringing food but I’ve still spent some $~120 on stuff for the party. I also have a very tight circle of friends that are more than family to me, so we’re all spending similar amounts or helping in proportion. i’ve got my core besties and they’ve got some 15 other people they’re bringing lol

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Anonymous #3 5d

My party starts at 7:30, we’ll have the food out at that point. There’s no like, Meal. It’s just snacks. We do have some soup that’s going in a slow cooker that ppl can eat whenever. But I’ll probably be wasted by 9pm so whether or not that gets eaten is not my concern lol

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Anonymous #3 5d

If you get invited to a party after 7 you’re getting desert/snacks/drinks. If you get invited at 4-5 you’re likely getting dinner (as it gives you time for a cocktail hour, and then moving onto a meal) college parties tend to go late/early. As you get older and people have work the next day, parties start ending earlier. My cousins are in their 30’s, and have kids and it’s rare for them to stay out past 9:30.

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