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Neurodivergent 16w
I hate showing excitement because if what I was excited for falls through, everyone who knew I was excited now feels pity for me and I don’t want people’s pity
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Anonymous 16w

I mean neurotypical people dont really pity people too much for stuff like that i dont think. Maybe for major stuff or if they were part of the reason it fell through. But usually they just say a quick “oh man im sorry that sucks” and it kinda ends with that. I also dont like pity so i get the direction you came from dw. But i think you’ll be okay. Things are worth showing excitement for

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Anonymous 16w

THIS IS ACTUALLY SO VALIDATING DUDE THANK YOU

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Anonymous 16w

Real

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Anonymous 16w

Do you think it’s possible you interpret someone empathizing with you & validating your disappointment as pity?

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Anonymous replying to -> transknifey 16w

I’m mostly talking about my family tbh. Wrote this bc I showed excitement about a job I interviewed for and I know if I don’t get it, my stepmom will be all apologetic and feel bad I didn’t get it

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

Oh thats different i see. A lot of people tend to infantilize people with autism and some other stuff is that kinda the case here or?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16w

Or regardless maybe try an approach to communicate how her responses make you feel. Tell her that you appreciate her concern for you and want her to continue to care, but that you get a little overwhelmed by the extent of her responses. Or something like that. Because it does sound like she cares. And if she does care im sure she’ll understand

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 16w

Oo this. I had no idea how to verbalize this so i didnt even try

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