Oh this is some hard sh!t. I had a college friend commit suicide after day after I told her I was hesitant to help her with [something at school]. Ugh. I feel so guilty but there had to be other things going on for her. I just hate to think I was the last straw. I would talk to my current love interest. Your ex may interpret the call for help in processing your feelings as he’s the hero in your life for times that plunder you. And like your current will feel like WTF.

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If you and the ex ended things on positive terms, then speak to current partner first and see his thoughts and if he would be comfortable with you reaching out. If both of those are affirmative, then go for it. If not, then there are other options. Therapy for one. Otherwise lots of people experience tragic loss, even if different circumstances. You share in the emotions of mourning, missing, sadness. Even if the situation is different, it can still be helpful to talk with them about grief

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