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I’m neurotypical but he’s neurodivergent and we’re going on our second date. First date went very well and we both had fun but nothing, I guess, romantic? happened. I lowk really wanna hold hands but i’m scared and nervous, I don’t wanna make him uncomfy
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Anonymous 1d

And i’m not sure if he’s ok with like physical contact, mostly because before we shared our feelings, we were hanging out in a group setting and our hands brushed and he said ‘don’t touch me’, i’m sure he was trying to be funny but lowk scared me. Anyways, how do I approach hand holding, if at all, on our upcoming date?

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Anonymous 23h

Just be honest and ask him if you can hold his hand. Worst he can say is that he isn’t comfortable with that yet and then you guys can just continue the date🤷‍♀️

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 23h

definitely this. if someone just grabbed my hand i might be offput and anxious and feel like i couldn't offend by removing it (unless i really wanted them to do it AND i predicted it). i would be a lot easier to read if asked and j would think its really cute and romantic

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