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Idk if this is a hot take or wrong, but I feel like men who got diagnosed with autism earlier in life have a less coping skills than women who get diagnosed later and had to mask their whole life so so asd women are often more emotionally intelligent
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Anonymous 6d

Also, because when men are diagnosed as children, they usually get more passes for wrong social behaviors as opposed to women who are undiagnosed who get shamed

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Anonymous 6d

So this is going to make some people mad, but this is a proven phenomenon. This also happens in men/AFAB that aren’t diagnosed early… more prominent with people that have very significant or close mother figures or even single mothers, but still noticeable otherwise. It’s kind of like ABA therapy all of the time in a way

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Anonymous 6d

This also goes for non-autism traits. When AMAB autistics are diagnosed young, for some reason the parents take that as an excuse to just let them do whatever the hell they want with no consequence. For example, I have a twenty-something autistic cousin who frequently steals from people’s houses and nobody does anything about it because “he doesn’t know any better”. Bitch, I got a 224 on the RAADS-R and even I know not to sneakily nab things from the houses of family members I’m visiting.

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Anonymous 6d

girls and women are definitely not given the same grace and are shamed out of ND traits very early

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Anonymous 6d

fr, and then we don't get taken seriously when we say we have autism bc we mask so well like no i just have this shit down to a science now

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Anonymous 6d

As an autistic guy I agree

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Anonymous 5d

Cis men at least. I’m a trans man who was diagnosed as kid, but I was diagnosed and grew up as a girl (didn’t accept I was trans until my late teens and didn’t come out until my early 20s) and I definitely notice a difference between my coping skills and that of my cis male autistic peers.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 6d

I MEANT MEN/AMAB

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 6d

Honestly that checks out because even the men I know with higher support needs are wayyyy more adjusted if they grew up w a single mom

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 6d

I like* how you managed to make it significantly more transphobic than it would otherwise be by using supposedly inclusive language. Good job! *by which I mean don't like. Come on!

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 6d

My bad, I was trying to be inclusive because I have colleagues over the spectrum of both neurodivergence snd gender Some of my colleagues are ND trans women and I have a friend that is diagnosed ASD that has been openly a trans man/boy since fairly young and essentially raised a boy… despite being AFAB. I didn’t know how else to articulate it to include people I actually know I’ll be more aware in the future, I can see why this came off the way it did. I’m sorry for any discomfort or hurt :(

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