Neurodivergent on Yik Yak | I have no friends I have no skills I barely understand how people work I’ve barely done anything with my hobbies I’ve never had a job I just sit alone in my room and scroll I’m 21 and I wasted all those years and neuroplasticity how could I let this happe

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Neurodivergent 11w

I have no friends I have no skills I barely understand how people work I’ve barely done anything with my hobbies I’ve never had a job I just sit alone in my room and scroll I’m 21 and I wasted all those years and neuroplasticity how could I let this happe

Anonymous 11w

its never too late, even if it feels like it

Anonymous 11w

I graduated college, I’ve always done well in school but other than that I have nothing, I feel so scared and alone, I don’t know how to make friends now and it’s only going to get harder, I wasted everything because I’m just so scared and anxious and disconnected and I hate myself

Anonymous 11w

you have so much time. graduating college is LOADS more than others can accomplish. you should celebrate that!! i didn’t celebrate my graduations at all & felt like it was nothing, when I should have made it a big deal for the milestone that it was! i’m 27 and i don’t have friends locally, haven’t since like 2018. i rarely leave my apartment except for work & campus. my biggest accomplishments is my academics too, same as you. we’re here though. we’re alive and looking at the new day & new sky!

Anonymous 11w

neuroplasticity doesn’t end!! your brain is always making new connections, reinforcing old ones, etc. (that’s why repeatedly being self-deprecating has such an impact over time — you’re reinforcing those claims). it might be harder than when you were a little kid, sure, but it’s still possible. it’s not your fault that your growth wasn’t fostered in the way you wish it was. good news is you can do your best to foster it now. i often feel bad about not having learned my family’s languages as a

Anonymous 11w

Im panicking and crying all the time how could I have let this happen I’ve wanted so desperately to be just DOING THINGS this whole time and every time I get shut down because I’m too anxious or exhausted by the idea or someone shuts me down and says to put it aside, do it later or I’m just too stupid probably

Anonymous 11w

I don’t know anybody who is this behind and managed to isolate themselves and stunt growth this badly I’m such a fuck up I never wanted this for myself I’m scared I feel like I’m ruined my brains ruined it’s too late for me to make something better for myself I made myself dumb

Anonymous

#2 11w

See I’ve been living with myself through this idea but theres a reason people say people don’t change and that we gotta start early and it just feels like I’ve been using that to lie to myself and feel like I have more time than I do

Anonymous

OP 11w

yeah thinking like that can be a double edge knife, just try not to self sabotage; its never too late, but for something to happen we have to do things yk

Anonymous

#3 11w

kid, but there’s nothing i can do about the past now. i simply wasn’t fully taught and didn’t realize the importance of seeking it out. but i’m learning now and though i tend to expect that i won’t remember things, i find that with practice i can do more than i realized. it sucks that you lost time but there’s still time ahead of you. start small, if that helps — 5 mins a day in something you’re interested in. you don’t have to be perfect at it. you can even find a way to mark your progress to

Anonymous

#3 11w

look back at. the app i’m learning chinese in has some stories for each section. sometimes i’ll think i’m not learning the new terms well but i read the story anyway (because only new activities provide enough exp for the day, otherwise i have to do multiple lessons) and i follow along better than i thought i would — it’s a small measure of progress. we have opportunities still. we’re not stuck. we can still learn and grow. let’s both do our best (& rest too bc that’s part of doing our best) 💜

Anonymous

#4 11w

i know you want to go do things and feel accomplished, and you will. for now, you have to celebrate every small step it takes to get there. tried something new and didn’t shut down? WOOHOO! found a way to make a hobby profitable or enriching? YEEHAW! went on a nature walk? YAHOO! celebrate every single thing. it’ll help break you out of the cycle of thinking you’ve got nothing to be proud of. 🩷

Anonymous

#4 11w

if you need more than just a stranger identified only as the number 4 giving you a brief boost, I highly recommend watching Steven Universe. I always refer to it as free therapy on how to be human. it’s a great story with intense lore, but it’s also full of reassuring and comforting words for real-life situations too. 🩷🌺

Anonymous

#4 11w

I really appreciate the kind messages, I will definitely consider what you’re saying about graduation - I felt exactly the same way about it. I think part of my problem is that I shut down even at small steps, I couldn’t even imagine being able to do something like making a hobby profitable at this point. It almost feels like I WANT to do nothing. Maybe so that it can feel like it needed to happen for the one day everything somehow miraculously clicks.

Anonymous

#4 11w

I also love Steven Universe, it was my special interest growing up!! I don’t really believe in signs, but it felt like a good sign just seeing it mentioned, thank you for commenting :)

Anonymous

OP 8w

i think this is a sign that you should dive back into SU on your down time. if you’re going to do nothing, mine was Sept ‘18 to Apr ‘19, then that’s a lovely show to fill your nothing with. maybe you’ll see it all from a different perspective with your more “grown-up” and changed mindset, and it’ll be a healing journey. 💗🥰 and you can finish it all just in time for Lars of the Stars to be released!