I’m struggling with the same. I often get frustrated when others’ neurodivergence isn’t the exact same as mine. In my case I’m either projecting, envious, or it’s an internalized ableism problem

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Yup and my biggest issue with other ND people is also when they are hyperverbal. I’m not really ever hyperverbal and I don’t know how to handle other people doing. It’s mostly tolerable if they are quiet about it but I constantly have to tell my adhd sister to lower her volume when she’s doing it because it hurts 😅

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Yes absolutely. I think it’s me offloading my trauma onto others ND people. Same with social rules and expectations. Like I still struggle with them and I used to reallllllly struggle with them as a kid and had to learn and luckily got therapy starting really young. But for some reason when other ND people don’t perform certain social customs it like grates me. And I know it’s me externalizing something going on in my head, again prolly my own trauma. Not a good way to act

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Yes. I do not mix with other autistic people well, especially ones that do not follow my internal rules and expectations. I get very irrationally mad at other autistic people because they’re breaking the rules that I’ve been following for forever. Makes me feel bad lol but I know that it’s just how it is. I don’t act on it and I can control myself mostly, so I can only acknowledge it and move on.

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It’s not a bad thing to dislike someone

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I’m the worst about this. My colleague is hyperverbal and will not SHUT UP when I’m trying to focus at work. Constantly yelling at her monitor. Very emotionally unregulated especially around certain tasks. I’m not allowed to sit anywhere else. I try to be understanding but MY NEEDS are consistently unmet as an AuDHD person with sensory difficulties. I got earplugs but they’re not enough. Going to get noise cancelling headphones to go on top.

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I feel this bc I am hyper meticulous of how I behave in public settings while my friend has little to no self awareness of his volume level and when and when not to say things. I often feel embarrassed around him which feels awful to say and I fear we’re only really friends bc we share common interests. Like I’m glad we’re friends but sometimes my internalized ableism rears its ugly head.

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