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That feeling when I ask someone a bunch of questions about their special interests and genuinely want to hear, but when I mention a single thing about me they go “Oh. Anyway, back to my topic…” :’)
#DontReadWhatIDontSay
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Anonymous 21h

Exactly it makes me feel bad

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Anonymous 18h

esp when I’m waiting for them to ask me something so I can bring it up without being too much

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Anonymous 8h

Have you tried telling them that the conversation feels one sided? I think I’ve been on the other side of the conversation and genuinely don’t realize I’m doing it wrong. It’s something they look for in autism assessments for a reason.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 15h

Yesss, seriously! Sometimes I’ll ask someone something like “where are you from?” and then they don’t even ask it back :’) and that might come off as me asking a question *just* so I can get asked it back, but it’s not that way. I genuinely want to know about where people are from; I just wish they also wanted to know where I’m from, yk?

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1h

I’ve never been able to get close enough (friends) to them to be able to say this, honestly. I definitely get that almost all of the time, the person doesn’t realize that I know everything about them meanwhile they don’t remember my name, but I simply just don’t feel comfortable saying something like this to someone I met half an hour ago, or very recently, if that makes sense. If it was someone I’d known for awhile, I’d maybe consider saying something like-

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1h

-“Do you mind if I tell you about (topic)?” But then again if it’s clear that me talking about something or myself is a burden to them and/or interrupting what they’d clearly rather be talking about, I just would rather not talk about it at all. I don’t think anyone’s really the bad guy in this situation usually, just that me and the other person have different communication styles - I’m very “Let’s ask each other questions back and forth”, which I know is definitely not for everyone

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