Anonymous #2 18h

Why would it not be worth it? Do you think?

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Anonymous gorillasarecool42 18h

Agreed but maybe just say you “suspect” you have it rather than “I have it” idk

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Anonymous OP 18h

Yeah

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Anonymous OP 18h

bunch of time money and effort to find a good diagnoser who actually knows how to work with adult women of color which is apparently really difficult all to tell me something i’m already sure about and i’ve heard the most it would practically do for me is give me accommodations in school that i already have

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Anonymous #2 18h

That’s about how I feel too. I don’t want any accommodations or anything, I just like using the coping skills other autistic people use that help me, which I don’t need a diagnosis for. If ever the need arises for me to need a confirmation, I might consider it.

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Anonymous #2 18h

True but it opens so many other windows as well like in job settings!

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Anonymous #3 18h

I mean totally fair, you can use the coping skills and stuff without saying you’re autistic (if you aren’t diagnosed) and can still say you might have it or suspect you do.

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Anonymous OP 18h

it can also hinder you in job settings consider how many people would discriminate against me

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Anonymous #2 18h

Yes but that’s illegal and if your boss would tell people that’s also illegal

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Anonymous OP 18h

dude do you seriously think anti discrimination laws stop employers and coworkers from discriminating

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Anonymous #2 18h

I just said it was illegal not that they wouldn’t but pop off I guess

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Anonymous OP 17h

why would i care that it’s illegal if it doesn’t make a difference why even mention it

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Anonymous #2 17h

Cause you can sue them idk bro you seem mad for no reason

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Anonymous OP 17h

Yes exactly

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Anonymous #2 17h

Omg so true. They understand white men a lot more.

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Anonymous #4 17h

What

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Anonymous OP 17h

i’m not mad everything i write is to be heard in a flat vaguely confused tone but like fr when someone discriminated it’s not like they’re gonna say they’re doing it you can make up any reason to discriminate. it’s like impossible to get evidence of it in 99% of cases there’s not actually much you can do other than hide it from the jump

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Anonymous #2 17h

You sounded like you were coming at me, thanks for the clarification on your tone. Also, true yes but hopefully there are good people in this world who wouldn’t do that to you. Plus you should work a job that understands you…not makes you fit them.

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Anonymous OP 17h

#2 said that a lot of people won’t understand autism in women of color. Normally autism is associated with white boys.

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Anonymous #4 17h

Oh oh yes ok I see

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Anonymous OP 17h

As a non white man I have definitely seen this. Not to mention most women are diagnosed later. I have a friend who was so obviously autistic to me in high school (woman of color) as an autistic person myself, yet somehow she wasn’t diagnosed. People were so mean to her because she was socially unaware, and she was treated as an outcast. People didn’t do the same to me because it’s more socially acceptable for guys to exhibit autistic traits.

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Anonymous #4 17h

I also have another female friend who was diagnosed the same age I was and she also experienced more bullying in high school compared to me. I witnessed this with both people first hand, as all 3 of us went to the same high school.

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Anonymous #4 17h

That makes sense yeah, autism is viewed differently in different cultures and whatnot. It can be harder for people to get diagnosed if their parents don’t believe in it culturally (this is what happened to my ex who was Mexican)

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Anonymous OP 17h

Genuine question because I’m curious about your thoughts on it: Why do you believe there should be a distinction between those who are medically diagnosed vs self-diagnosed?

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Anonymous OP 14h

“without saying you’re autistic (if you aren’t diagnosed) and can still say you might have it or suspect you do”? if they know themself to be autistic then there’s nothing wrong with them saying that they are autistic, regardless of whether they’ve been professionally diagnosed

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for one, “determined to be Not Autistic by a doctor” is objectively not the same as “not officially diagnosed” for two, even if someone Has been “determined to be not autistic”, it’s not at all uncommon to seek a second opinion when one medical professional’s assessment does not feel accurate to you. that’s a normal part of healthcare because being a licensed professional does not automatically mean being correct 100% of the time

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no one implied that doctors and diagnoses are meaningless, that’s a misinterpretation you’re projecting onto what’s been said and what #10 said about “gatekeeping” does not in any way contradict “not everyone is autistic and that’s okay”. the point is simply that 1) the institutional authority required to sign off on a diagnosis is locked behind an incredibly expensive academic paywall, i.e. By Definition it is gatekept, and 2) autistic people can know themselves to be autistic

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like, you don’t spontaneously become autistic on the spot within the very moment that a licensed professional diagnoses you—you were autistic prior to being diagnosed as well if you had not sought professional diagnosis, that wouldn’t magically make it so that you Weren’t autistic… you would just be an autistic person without an official diagnosis. which, to be clear, that’s also what every diagnosed autistic person is before they get diagnosed

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Anonymous OP 11h

One of the PhD students in the lab I work in is Mexican and surprisingly there are a lot of things in common with Indian culture. I’m Indian but am also fluent in Spanish. I need Spanish for some of the research I do. My parents were pretty supportive though, and they got me diagnosed because I advocated for myself. I wonder if my teacher would’ve treated my symptoms differently if I was a girl

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