Neurodivergent on Yik Yak | Guys how do you know the difference between actual trauma and stuff like “this thing my parents did when I was a kid still negatively affects me to this day”

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Neurodivergent 16w

Guys how do you know the difference between actual trauma and stuff like “this thing my parents did when I was a kid still negatively affects me to this day”

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Anonymous 16w

If it still affects you all these years later, it probably had a bigger impact than you thought. You know, like trauma…

Anonymous 16w

Cause like I KNOW I have the second one but I don’t know how many criteria I fit for actual trauma? But like my sister has whole ass CPTSD so I know there were experiences worthy of it even if we didn’t have the exact same ones.

Anonymous 16w

At some point the definition was “reasonable belief that you or someone else’s life was in danger” but we definitely don’t use that definition anymore because non-life threatening abuse/neglect/etc can still cause the same trauma responses. If you have trauma responses to it (flashbacks, avoiding things that remind you of it, etc) it’s likely trauma.

Anonymous 16w

I don’t think there’s a clear line, or that you necessarily need to define it as trauma or not. Feelings and memories are complicated, and different people will feel different ways about the same events. Childhood trauma doesn’t have to mean “my parents were horrible and committed atrocities”. Bottom line is do what helps you now, and don’t worry about fitting your experiences into a particular box

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working_tgirl 16w

You know when you say it like that😭 But yk some of it is just poor examples they gave me yk? So I have to learn better ways to engage with people on my own. Which is difficult. But I don’t think THATS trauma that’s just general bad parenting.

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#2 16w

Well I definitely don’t get flashbacks but I am pretty sure I’ve expressed some avoiding reminders behaviors before? Not as much recently though it was way way way worse during the pandemic. But tbh I can’t think of any examples? The thing is my parents behavior was like mostly emotional manipulation and controlling behaviors towards me yk? So it’s harder to see examples of avoiding that in my day to day life. Especially rn since I’ve been low on social engagement in general for a while now.

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#3 16w

I mean that’s fair but I feel like I’m pushed towards one or the other. Cause on the one hand I have had a lot of struggles related to my upbringing and I want to feel validated for those. But on the other I don’t wanna take a label that isn’t mine yk? Or isn’t clinically accurate cause like it does have a diagnosis.