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Neurodivergent 9w
insane how PDA (persistent drive for autonomy/pathological demand avoidance) works sometimes. like. my friend is becoming more deadset on staying with her awful bf bc people keep nagging her to leave him 😭 I have it too so i cant even blame her tbh
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Anonymous 9w

I wish they'd just leave her alone lowkey bc she'll only make the decision to leave when she's not being pressured by everyone around her, I wish they'd understand that- I stopped a long time ago for that exact reason!!

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Anonymous 9w

Persistent drive for autonomy makes more sense to me personally. I’ve never heard PDA that way, but I relate more to that than the more clinical term.

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Anonymous 9w

Now, does she actually have this syndrome, or are you just projecting this onto her?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 9w

She does, we've known each other forever and talked about it at length, please don't assume stuff about people you don't know

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 9w

And PDA isn't a 'syndrome' of its own, it's a frequent part/result of autism

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 9w

bro came in like “Now…” on a total assumption about someone else 💀💀

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 9w

No seriously... like what 😭

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 9w

I like it too!! it helps establish the root of why the demand avoidance occurs instead of just saying it's there- reminds me of the difference in the term for MPD becoming DID (one name describes the result while the other describes the process behind that result)

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 9w

Yes, exactly! I didn’t know how to word why I liked it but that’s basically why. Cause I don’t feel like I’m avoiding demands, it’s just that I want control in a way

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