Anonymous theunseencryptid 1d

-went by a different name in college cause I “just didn’t feel like my birth name when I looked in the mirror” and had “no emotional connection to it” Long story short, I was oblivious for a while

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Anonymous #1 1d

Thank you :D

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Anonymous #2 1d

Mine wasn’t necessarily a choice instead of a realization that there were deeper things going on, but good for you for living the life that makes you happy!!

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Anonymous theunseencryptid 1d

oops, misinterpreted your wording, my bad 🫡

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Anonymous #2 1d

You’re all good, dw :)

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Anonymous #2 12h

I’m a bit confused—correct me if I’m wrong, but being bi-gender is what makes you feel best, and I’m not sure how you choose to prefer being both a man/woman. could you explain how it’s different from a trans man “choosing” to transition? or do you mean that your act of identifying as bi-gender was a choice in itself

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Anonymous #3 12h

this is a gen question btw, I like hearing abt other peoples’ experiences, especially when I’m confused bt them lol. feel free to not answer if you’re tired of explaining it to other people lol

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Anonymous #3 8h

it’s a multi-layered thing and might not totally make sense outside my head, but I’ll try to explain on the identity level, I mean that I 1) made a conscious choice to interpret my gender experience as “man & woman at the same time” as opposed to genderfluidity and 2) believe I *could* be just as content if I were exclusively male—being some type of transmasc is inevitable for me—but, with multiple equally viable paths in front of me, I decided I didn’t have to write off my history with-

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Anonymous #2 8h

-growing up in sapphic spaces as just, like, an identity I was “incorrect” about on my way to being a trans man. it would’ve been fair to retroactively parse that aspect of my formative years as just a stepping stone to transness, but instead I decided that I was right to think of myself as a queer girl

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Anonymous #3 8h

on the material level, the “choice” I make is about my presentation and fluctuations in my HRT regimen. again, I think I could be just as content attempting to pass exclusively as a man, but I decided that I might as well aim for androgyny anyway, and I chose to embrace being referred to by strangers as multiple different genders all in the same day

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Anonymous #2 8h

there was a point in my medical transition where, instead of accepting my kneejerk reaction of discomfort at being addressed as a woman some of the time, I decided it was actually dope as hell to not have to fully opt out of womanhood lol. so yeah, what ultimately makes it a choice to me is the way the internal & the material interact

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