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Off My Chest 5w
i wanna break up with my boyfriend but it will probably make him kill himself. hes said i’m the only one who’s ever listened to him, communicated, etc and yea that’s good, but he’s too much. he has no friends, no job, nothing. i cant keep him above water
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Anonymous 5w

So what’s best for you. His actions aren’t your responsibility. He can make his own decisions and get a job/ an income, and needs to work on himself. You can only do so much before it ruins you

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5w

*Do

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5w

ik and ive been trying to guide him in the direction of fixing himself and he does with some things but i can’t keep doing it any longer. it doesn’t help that his family apparently “doesnt trust him” enough to let him get a job but i also doubt he’s ever asked to get one

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

I’d say sit him down and tell him about how it makes you feel and that he has to do something or else for your own sake you’re gonna have to walk away, could offer to help him build up a resume but tell him he has to actually put in the work if he wants to keep y’all’s relationship (coming from someone also trying to find a stable job bc I could only get work at the fair as my income last two years after moving back home)

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 5w

thanks dude. i have talked to him (didnt give him an ultimatum tho) and hes talking to his mom about getting his GED and a job working with his brother so hopefully that works, but i also think ive just fallen out of love with him

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

Sounds like the talk was able to get through to him at least which is a good sign, and it’s ok to fall out of love and if you’re unsure or think he deserves a second chance after the talk then I’d say at least give him that opportunity since it sounds like after talking he wants to at least get some of his life together

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