I told her my grandmother had died and her exact words were “yeah, I saw that on facebook” with absolutely no sign of sympathy. When I said my dad had died she said “Well you were upset with him anyway, right? So it’s ok” (for reference, I had not spoken to my dad in about 6 months when he died) and when I said yes I was mad but ofc it’s not ok, it’s still my father, she got upset with me for not telling her that I cared about my father’s wellbeing.