Anonymous #1 1d

To be fair I think even if you agree with it there’s still a line where it’s too much. That sounds like it was definitely crossed

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Anonymous #3 1d

I was veryy good and a suck up to other adults. but I was also taught that people shouldn’t hurt me so I directly thought that what they were doing was wrong and I’d hit them trying to escape from it

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Anonymous #3 1d

If I would’ve tried that I can’t even imagine what I would get

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Anonymous OP 1d

I definitely got screamed at a lot, if they seriously hurt me more I don’t think they wanted me going around telling my teachers about how my hit me because I did do that before

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Anonymous #3 1d

My parents hit*

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Anonymous OP 1d

I don’t agree with it. That was the point of my comment 😭

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Anonymous #1 1d

But did you learn from it though?

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Anonymous #5 1d

We teach kids all the time to “use their words” but look at what happens in the world at the highest levels when 2 countries can’t agree on something by using their words…the bullets, bombs, and missiles start flying. The world is a violent place and humans have been fighting since the days of the Neanderthals. A reasonable amount of physical punishment isn’t going to hurt them, and the fear of being punished will prevent them from doing whatever it was again.

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Anonymous #6 1d

Lack of discipline is the reason we have these packs of feral kids running wild on their e-bikes flash mobbing places, stealing stuff, and not having the slightest fear of getting caught or punished

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Anonymous #6 1d

Have you considered alternative forms of discipline that don’t involve physical touch & are actually more effective long term?

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Anonymous #6 1d

Yeah I learned to resent my parents

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Anonymous #8 16h

It shouldn’t create trauma. It should’ve been clear that the kid shouldn’t have done multiple times beforehand and if they’re still acting out then yes, in that occasion it’s acceptable to spank. I think some parents will spank their kids for acting wrong when the kid is yk dumb and didn’t fully recognize it. That’s not a time to spank. When it’s abundantly clear to the child that they shouldn’t have done that behavior and they still act out, holding them and striking their legs is ok.

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Anonymous #8 16h

What makes you feel this way?

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Anonymous #5 15h

U think spanking is completely unacceptable? Look at what America is turning out to be. Would you say this is a golden age? Wealthiest country in the world is falling apart. Kids have too much autonomy and no discipline. It’s fantastic for art (music, movies, entertainment) but terrible for things that matter. Role of parent isnt to be kid’s bestfriend. Not until they’re 16 ish. The role evolved but it’s always to let them flourish to be the best and happiest version they can be. China gets it

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Anonymous #8 15h

I could go on and on. As americans, we’re stupid, ok? Geography, math, science, etc. You could argue if it’s important or not but Americans are not disciplined today. Most unhealthy country in the world. Most unfit populations for military requirements. We’re being carried by immigrants, specifically those who were competent and disciplined enough to escape their situation to come to the land of opportunities. Yk what immigrant families support? Strong discipline. Not in the sense of inducing

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Anonymous #8 15h

…inducing fear. But in the sense of establishing a norm and a high bar. Establish “this is how things are done” and everything has to be done proper. It also means, once in your childhood you’re going to get spanked. Not to induce trauma. But to drop a dose of reality in a safe controlled way. In the future you don’t want your kid to get in trouble. You want them capable. You want them to understand discipline is a component of freedom. If you have no discipline, you are not free. And that

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Anonymous #8 15h

That means aligning incentive structures. Both desires and fears have to be properly placed. This platform doesn’t give me the format to properly expand on my thoughts. Or perhaps I haven’t processed them well enough to convey them concisely. Regardless, I believe spanking should only be done at a very low frequency (1-3 times per childhood), and I feel so bc of evidence I’ve seen and logic I can compile

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Anonymous #8 15h

This makes the most sense out of what I’ve seen

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Anonymous #8 14h

You raise some interesting points, but I’m still wondering if there’s research to support this stance on the effectiveness / emotional safety of rare spankings & instilling the idea that parents are always at will to use it if it behavior gets too out of control?

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