You need to compete, but it also needs to be a lifestyle. Weekend pickup games are “athletic” but the players aren’t inherently athletes. But someone who takes it seriously, whose life is ordered by their status of “athlete”, is an athlete regardless of what level they’re competing at.
You also need to be competitive. Comparison to make the point: someone with 12 followers calling themselves an “influencer” just because they post the content and consider themselves an influencer and order their life by this narrative of “I’m an influencer” is not, in fact, an influencer.