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Your long distance partner hides opposite gender “friend” that likes them from you. They text or call anywhere from 2-4 times a week. Hung out once at a public place. Is this ok?

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It is ok

NOT ok

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268 votes

Anonymous 5w

There shouldn’t be a relationship atp

Anonymous 5w

If he was upfront about all of it, I’d say it’s probably a beige flag. But the fact that he hid it and only did something when you got upset is a red flag for me

Anonymous 5w

texting less than every day and hanging out publicly *once* just sounds like a friendship. Why is this so appalling to everyone else???

Anonymous 5w

Not ok but not beyond saving. Though I wouldn’t have too much hope.

Anonymous

#2 5w

they met and went on a date 2 years ago. she still likes him. forgot to add that she blocked him while I visited him so I wouldn’t see her in his phone. sounds like a friendship

Anonymous

OP 5w

he also never told me about her or any of this.

Anonymous

OP 5w

okay that seems like much more useful information than “they hung out once”

Anonymous

#2 5w

oh yeah I’m sorry. they went to go hit volleyballs together bc they both play but yeah he never told me about any of this, i saw it in his phone

Anonymous

#2 5w

I’m appalled from the hiding. Why be in a relationship with someone if you cannot or won’t be honest with them.

Anonymous

#1 5w

I know. all I wanted from his was transparency and honesty but he couldn’t do that for me. I told him to pls stop talking to this person but I saw he texted her “I’ll text you still if you text me” and after I saw that I got so upset. He then finally blocked her.

Anonymous

OP 5w

Mmm not loving any of that. Honestly I’d find that to be a HUGE dealbreaker even if he did end up blocking her. You don’t wanna look like the controlling partner but he put you in that sort of predicament. I wouldn’t be surprised if he unblocked her and hid that from you too.

Anonymous

#1 5w

That’s the thing. I didn’t want to be controlling at all but now I already feel like I am. Honestly, I don’t trust any girl I would see in his phone at this point.

Anonymous

#2 5w

Personally I think the fact they hid it makes it substantially worse. Like hiding it implies you know something’s wrong or they wouldn’t want op to find out

Anonymous

#5 5w

Yeah he hid all of it, I think it’s hard bc we’re long distance. I only saw her name in his phone and that’s when he told me bits and pieces. Right away he said “oh she only was asking about what college I’m gonna go to” and later that night I got told way more information. He was texting, snapping, and calling her for 2 months (only a few times a week or less), but it’s just weird bc she likes him and BLOCKED him when I was visiting. I feel bad bc then the next day was his bday and we were

Anonymous

OP 5w

arguing. and the fact that he said he would stop talking to her but told her he would still talk to her and then after I saw that, he finally blocked her.. idk I feel legit crazy rn