Anonymous #1 7w

It feels like such a big red flag cuz it’s like “you knew these plants are important to me but you still forgot” and then there’s so many excuses but at some point it gets so tiring. I’m tired of getting mad at him for something he forgot to do I just don’t know what will happen if we broke up. We have a cat and a dog and a new apartment together. I just know going down this route will eventually lead to a split

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Anonymous OP 7w

well you seem to already made up your mind babes. it IS red flag especially if it keeps happening! he’s showing that he doesn’t care about your stuff enough to actually pay attention and remember SIMPLE (if you ask me) tasks for you. if he truly cared, he’d remember and go above and beyond to do so. i’m sorry that the truth hurts, but i’m on the page where he’s not taking care of you as much as you deserve. ❤️‍🩹

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Anonymous #1 7w

No I definitely haven’t made up my mind about it. The reason why I’m just waiting for him to get his shit together is cuz any time he made a mistake where I felt like it wasn’t right or it was disrespectful he does make up for it by instantly apologizing and reflecting on his actions and points out stuff about himself that I didn’t even notice was also an issue. And I know that day he was done with a 12 hour shift from Amazon. He wasn’t able to go to my place the next day either.

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Anonymous OP 7w

I know he’s trying and he’s never showed that he was pissed about me being hurt by it. He understood and always tries to show that he thinks about me and what I want or may like. But down side is that he does that whenever we’re out but it’s like he forgets his manners when we’re home. But I noticed already now that he’s doing better by cleaning up after himself. Like the basic shit that I’ve scolded him to do before. Cuz I did tell him I’m not dating to be a mom to my partner.

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Anonymous OP 7w

It also just feels like of if I truly didn’t give it my all, then I know I’d beat myself up over it if it did end up in a breakup. I thought about it now because it just felt overwhelming to constantly get upset and we both have adhd so that’s not easy sometimes

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Anonymous OP 7w

well communication is definitely important, but it’s another red flag that he acts totally different in public than he does at home. it’s also a red flag if he apologizes and claims he’s going to fix stuff, but then never does, and the cycle just continues. i hope you can work it out, but just keep that stuff in mind cause you deserve everything in the world

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Anonymous #1 7w

Oh yeah ofc and I have been in relationships in the past where something bothered me and they would say they’d fix it and never actually do it. They’d just stop for a week then go back to the routine. With my bf I don’t feel that. Like he’s made a lot of changes and developed better habits. It’s just felt like it got worse when I left and he’s a really sensitive guy. Like a lot more than I am. So he takes things to heart and uses that to better himself. When I mean he’s different in public -

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Anonymous OP 7w

I just mean that like if we’re eating in a public he makes sure that we don’t make a mess and clean up after. But puts it off when we’re at my place. So like I’ve given him shit for that and he started putting his part in it. He’s also just getting out of his parents grip where they kinda just did everything for him and treated him like a fuck up so he just left a lot of things alone. I reminded him that when it comes to living with me that shit doesn’t fly and he understood

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