Red Flags on Yik Yak | I feel less of a man because my then gf was drunk and kept touching me sexually even after I said stop but she wouldn’t. Then she apologized but never made things up to me and I feel like it’s my fault because I’m a man and I guess i could’ve stopped her.

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I feel less of a man because my then gf was drunk and kept touching me sexually even after I said stop but she wouldn’t. Then she apologized but never made things up to me and I feel like it’s my fault because I’m a man and I guess i could’ve stopped her.

Anonymous 11w

Friend, please don’t feel bad or guilty for this. You’re allowed to decide when you do and do not want to be touched. You didn’t do anything wrong. You told her to stop, and she didn’t, which isn’t okay even if she was drunk. I’m guy who’s been SA’d by a former girlfriend before, so I have a lot of experience with these feelings. If you need anything or want to talk about it, feel free to dm me. Are you okay?

Anonymous 11w

I’m so sorry that happened to you, that was really shitty of her! People tend to overlook it when it happens to men just because they’re men, but didn’t realize that harm is harm and PTSD lasts forever. I’m not a man, but as a woman who’s been in similar situations, I can understand the hurt and pain you’re going through, so I’m also here to listen if you need a safe space to be vulnerable and not judged. DMs are open 🫶

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Anonymous 11w

You aren’t less of a man at all. But can I ask what you feel like would make things up to you after she did that?

Anonymous 11w

Should’ve stopped her

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Anonymous

#1 11w

I think I’m fine 😭 I’ve moved on from her but sometimes I think about reaching out to her again because of how pissed I get

Anonymous

OP 11w

I understand, it can be really hard having to carry that experience and those feelings with you all this time. I hope you know you’re valid. I wouldn’t suggest reaching out to her personally, but I understand why you feel that way. I’m glad you’re fine though :)

Anonymous

#1 11w

Yeah worst part is we didn’t end on bad terms but I got angry after we ended things and broke contact I sometimes feel like I let her off easy

Anonymous

#2 11w

😭😭