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Relationship Advice 17h
Genuinely what do I do if my bf is bad in bed? He’s now bad but he’s gotten me to the finish line maybe 2-3 times in our almost 3 yr relationship. Ik that sounds crazy but I love him and this is the worst part of our relationship idk what to.
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Anonymous 13h

I know it will hurt his feelings and pride but you just have to be honest with him. Communicate how you feel and try to find a way to solve it together. Tell him what you like in bed, what had gotten you to the finish line. Men can’t read minds. Communication is key, along with maybe try toys and stuff together, could add a new element or spice it up.

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Anonymous 11h

Hi OP, I read about this stuff and figured out the key. Both have sensors and emotions with interests. What separates sex from fetish is that both partners figure their sensors and emotions and dance tougher which is foreplay while fetish is appeasing a particular abstract to a sensor. Fetish is a shortcut people take as in rough sex to trigger the sensors and for both sides be primed. But this becomes a drug. Foreplay is the answer but it requires to learn to dance and map the sensor/emotions

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 11h

So on his end, he hasn’t mapped out your sensors nor emotions. So he may be laying there or finding some abstract on one of the sensors. So both sides are not primed and thus one finishes before the other. After a while for 3 years he should have figured it out.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 11h

One simple thing he can do is to find a way to focus and see how you focus. So to do things where both focus and with this focus can synchronize. Hugging or even a therapeutic massage while maintaining the mood. As he does this he’s mapping you out and learning to dance. What do you think stops him from noticing that you are left out?

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