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Relationship Advice 6w
guys i need your help, my boyfriend said his boundary is him not wanting me to drink at all whatsoever bc it makes him uncomfortable even if im just with my girlfriends and having some wine or a couple of mixed drinks am i in the wrong for being upset?
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Anonymous 6w

if that's his boundary, that's his boundary. question falls to you if that's something you can tolerate in a relationship. if not, you also shouldn't feel bad for considering it a dealbreaker.

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Anonymous 6w

Have you asked him why he has an issue with this? That is a key determining factor

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Anonymous 6w

girl that ain’t no boundary that’s control. if he asked you not to drink around him or try to get him to drink that’s one thing. even if he said please don’t come home sloppy drunk. him telling you that you can’t even have one drink is crazy. “stfu” would fly out my mouth so fast 🫩

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 6w

he said i’m immature and gross if i drink.. so that’s why im like upset bc he can have his own values but i shouldn’t have to follow them i’m an adult yk

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6w

that would be 100% true if he was saying HE considers drinking to be immature but doesn't care what you do. he's trying to force you to have his values so you have to decide whether that's enough to leave over (i don't think anyone would blame you if so)

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6w

Sounds like he’s trying to control you. You are an adult and can make your own decisions.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6w

Maybe try clarifying with him. Like there’s a difference between a few drinks and getting blackout or sloppy drunk.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 6w

I had an alcoholic mother and seeing drunk women scared the shit out of me, and it pulled me in a direction of disgust for a long time. I’m better now, but yeah.

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