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Relationship Advice 21h
I finally realized I have feelings for one of my best friends. The crush has been there for a while (idk never had one), but it only clicked in my head last week and now I’ve genuinely never felt worse. I feel so fucking delusional. How do I navigate this
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Anonymous 21h

I don’t want to tell him because he genuinely means so much to me as a friend, and I don’t wanna lose that. Every single time this has happened in my friend group, it’s only ended horribly for EVERYone.

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Anonymous 18h

In my opinion, if you both are single, you should either ask him out or tell him how you feel! As someone who typically only has crushes on friends, I feel your fears because I know an outcome like that can happen, but more often than not, if you all are good friends and it sounds like it, as long as you're respectful, your friendship can survive even if he doesn't feel the same If he does feel the same, this could be the start of a beautiful relationship

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 21h

But then I take the smallest possible step towards even Attempting to hint: reposting shit about loving physical touch (we cuddle basically every time we get to hangout), and just today I decided to put a love song as my IG note hoping he’d see it, and just 20mins after he put a love song on His notes specifically with our favorite colors.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 21h

😭😭😭 I feel like im losing my mind here over the most innocent things. I’ve never felt like this before in my life, this is truly and genuinely the first actual crush I’ve ever had, I was contemplating whether i was on the aromantic spectrum for the longest time and here i am now.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 21h

Got this sounds so childish now. Whatever. But if anyone genuinely has any advice for me I’d so deeply appreciate it!!!

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 18h

Thank you so much for the response! I was thinking of maybe trying to get closer this upcoming weekend when we see each other next, or inviting him to the movies this Tuesday… unsure unsure. A lot of this comes down to my fear of losing a close friend, even if I truly know he wouldn’t just cut me off like that. Mental illness sucks 💔

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 18h

I totally hear you, it's so hard to be in this situation and your fears are completely understandable. I think it comes down to will you regret never telling him how you feel if he were to start seeing someone someday or would you be able to work on this and get over him? If it's the first situation, you should try as this could be the start of a beautiful relationship with y'all if he feels likewise. Good luck to you!!!

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